Monday, October 25, 2010

Friends and Bullies: the Sexualization of Schoolchildren

Modern sex activists must work hard to maintain a hard-won victim/minority status for the sexually liberated. Just now, apparently there isn't enough, if any,"homophobia" or "discrimination" happening, there aren't enough, if any, "hate crimes" occurring against "gays" going on, and there aren't even enough, if any, "gay suicides" in the news which they can exploit to further their cause. (We use quotation marks because there is not enough proof, if any, that these people and events are what they are claimed to be.) Hence, activists have shifted to an even younger demographic and have grabbed for an even less believable complaint. They have regressed to the schoolyard. The complaint is bullying. Don't buy it. Here's why:

There is no such thing as a gay child. All human beings are innately heterosexual; it's simple biology. When we discuss the bullying of gay children, we have bought into the false idea that there is such a thing as gay children.

People assume that all this bullying is being perpetrated on children who have discovered their gayness and made it known, or on children everybody thinks they know are gay because of their mannerisms or interests. Neither of these sources -- the children themselves or others -- are in any way reliable. Children, if left to their natural modesty and innocence, know nothing about sex and sexuality. They should be taught the proper attitudes and facts at the appropriate ages. A young child who self-labels as gay has been taught it and probably doesn't have a clue about sex or the sexual behaviors gayness is about. If others decide a child is gay, they are mistaken. Why should laypeople be able to make this determination? Even doctors and scientists have no evidence.

What about the innocent child who is taunted with gay labels? Who is standing up for him? Not many. Evidently the public has bought into the clever idea that if a child is bullied for being gay, he is gay. But again, why should anybody believe schoolyard bullies? If a vulnerable kid gets called "gay" often enough he could start to believe it. It happens more often than people know.

So why are gay activists sending up the alarm about bullying if it actually recruits youngsters into their ranks? Don't they need the bullying to go on? Sure, but this tactic doubles their advantage. Not only do they cement their victim status, they get recruits. If bullying of "gay children" subsides or just doesn't pan out, they will think of some new complaint.

Children today who are called "gay" by their classmates may be different in any number of ways. The word gay is used for anything. Or they may also fit into kids' ideas of trumped-up "gay" stereotypes (such as less athletic, more verbal boys who like music and art, etc.) or may be going through a developmental phase they will grow out of (such as a girl being a tomboy). More serious is when children suffer from gender identity disorder or have been sexually abused. But incredibly, none of these factors are part of the conversation.

Sex activists and a conditioned public are actually creating a sexualized environment around children by legitimizing the bullying of "gay children." We would do well to ask, why are adults projecting adult sexuality onto innocent children?

We need to remember that kids are naturally attracted to their own gender. This is called friendship. From these associations, a child becomes confident in his or her masculinity or femininity. This is a part of normal sexual development and important for relating properly to the opposite sex. Now children are hearing that if you are attracted to those of your same sex it is sexual and you must be gay. This is ridiculous. All normal children have best friends of their same gender, friends that at times they would rather be with than anyone else. The sexualization of same-sex friendship is a travesty.

Don't buy into the newest tactic. Yes, being against bullying sounds good, and everybody is against it. But there's no getting rid of it. Instead of all this talk about children taunting and teasing each other (which has always been and will always be), including now in sexual ways, why don't we teach children their innate spiritual self worth apart from what others say about them? Why not teach courage instead of victimhood? strength instead of weakness? right from wrong? good from evil? normal from unnatural? health from sickness? wisdom from recklessness? What kind of generation are we raising?

Children's admiration of one another is naturally nonsexual. Gay stereotyping is harmful and unfair. While unfortunate bullying, taunting, and teasing are not new, the dangerous sexualized labels kids are sticking on themselves and others is. We call upon everyone everywhere to refuse to label children any of these "alternative sexual orientations."

It's not children teasing each other we should be most worried about. It's the sexualization of children that should get our attention, which is promoted by the gay movement and its many unwitting supporters.

Unlimited sexuality used to be confined to San Francisco. Now it's crept into the classrooms, halls, and playgrounds across America.

Thursday, October 14, 2010

If I were LDS and Ex-SSSA

If I were LDS and also once, long ago, troubled with same-sex sexual attraction which I decided I didn’t want and chose to get over even though it was a difficult thing to do, I’d be confused about the Church right now. First, President Packer seemed to be saying my past sexual proclivities were sinful in thought and deed, that my feelings were not an identity, that I was just a sinner like anybody else who can repent and change in order to progress. This is what I would believe, and what worked for me. Then about ten days later the spokesman from the Church’s public affairs department came out with a statement. He seemed to say that same-sex attraction is an identity, that it’s not people’s fault, that those attractions or feelings aren’t sinful, that people with SSSA can progress in the church and enjoy the blessings of the temple. These two views are opposite. Maybe for a minute I wouldn’t know what to think about what is going on at the Church. I’d pray to get the Spirit to guide me.

I’d wonder why I had felt I should repent from my past attractions, thoughts, feelings, as well as any sort of conduct related to homosexuality, while repentance isn't even in others’ vocabulary. I'd wonder why others pretend that SSSA is pure and wholesome when I know from personal experience it isn't. I'd feel sorry for such people because they are fooling themselves. I'd wonder why others aren't encouraged to get the right kind of professional help, when the help I got so many years ago was so reasonable and enlightening. I’d wonder why others who have covenanted to keep their minds and hearts within the Lord's boundaries for sexuality don't feel they have to keep this covenant. I would have taken and continued to take this covenant very seriously.

I’d wonder why the world seems to give those involved in homosexuality so much special attention and acceptance and people like me who have left it behind absolutely none. I’d wonder why my experiences of getting into and getting out of homosexuality are discounted and ignored. I’d wonder why when I share my experiences and beliefs some people get really angry and call me all sorts of awful things, even wishing me dead. It’s a good thing I wouldn’t take these attacks personally. I would see that these people aren't ready to hear my testimony that they can turn back to God and change. I would know that is their choice. I would pray for them even though they feel and act as if they are my enemies.

If I were LDS and also ex-SSSA, it wouldn't be hard to decide to go with President Packer’s talk, the one he gave at General Conference on Oct. 3 at the pulpit. He’s the president of the Quorum of the Twelve Apostles. I would remember how the Spirit confirmed to me that his words and warnings were true and right. I wouldn’t pay any attention to those who try to confuse or water down the gospel and the truth. I’d continue to make sure those three things — the prophets, the scriptures, and the Spirit — match up.

If I were LDS and ex-SSSA, I’d continue my regular habit of turning to the Lord all day every day. I'd do it because I love Heavenly Father and want to do His will, as Jesus showed. (People talk a lot about God loving them, but not much about them loving God and striving to do His will out of that love. While He gave us everything, He also makes great demands on us, such as keeping His law of chastity in our hearts and minds as well as physically.) I’d keep putting my full reliance on my Savior Jesus Christ and feeling the joy of his divine Atonement. I’d keep seeking truth and comfort from the Holy Ghost. I’d keep feeling God’s love. I’d keep striving to be that new creature in Christ I had become. I’d keep making good choices. I’d pray to be shown what other weaknesses and sins I have and work to leave them behind too, all through my life.

This is actually happening to people. Now that is love.

Wednesday, October 13, 2010

If I Were LDS with SSSA

If I were troubled with same-sex sexual attraction and also LDS, I’d be really confused and angry at the Church right now. First, President Packer said my sexual proclivities are sinful and immoral in thought and deed, that my sexual feelings are not an identity, that I’m just a sinner like anybody else who can repent and change.

Then ten days later the spokesman from the Church’s public relations department came out with a statement because the Human Rights Campaign complained. He said that same sex attraction is an identity, that it’s not my fault, that my feelings aren’t sinful, that I can progress in the church, that I can enjoy the blessings of the temple, that other members of the church should be kind to me (as if they haven’t been), but that I cannot act on my attractions. I can’t have a same sex partner. I can’t do what I want with my supposedly fine sexual feelings.

These two viewpoints are opposite. I'd wonder why the church, although it remains consistent on supporting traditional marriage and condemning homosexual behavior, seems so conflicted on certain other elements of this issue. I wouldn’t know what to think. I would realize that neither of these views could satisfy a person in my position. Pres. Packer said I had to repent. And Brother Otterson said I didn't have to repent but that I could never act on my feelings. In my confusion and misery, I’d try to get the Spirit to guide me.

If I were an active LDS adult I would know that my attractions (romantic or sexual appetites, passions, desires, thoughts, and feelings) are supposed to be kept within the Lord's boundaries. As we learn from the scriptures, we're supposed to purify our hearts and minds as well as our hands. And I would know in my heart of hearts that homosexuality is outside those boundaries and unclean. Jesus said, "Whoseover looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart." It follows that homosexual attractions, like adulterous attractions, are lustful and sinful. I would know that I must be accountable for these attractions, and not pretend they are out of my control.

If I were LDS troubled with SSSA, I'd go with President Packer’s talk, the one he gave at General Conference on Oct. 3 at the pulpit. He’s the president of the Quorum of the Twelve Apostles. I wouldn’t pay any attention to anything or anyone else on this earth. I’d study the scriptures. I’d seek the Spirit to confirm that what Pres. Packer said was true. I’d make sure those three things — Pres. Packer, the scriptures, and the Spirit — match up.

If I were LDS with SSSA I’d get help. I’d repent. And I’d do it because I love Heavenly Father and want to do His will. I’d do it with full reliance on my Savior Jesus Christ. I’d seek truth and comfort from the Holy Ghost. I’d feel God’s love. I’d become a new creature in Christ and leave this sin behind no matter how hard it was or how long it took. Then I'd do the same thing with every other weakness and sinful tendency or temptation I experienced, all through my life.

This is actually happening to people. Now that is love.

HRC Attacks LDS: Is Threatening Religious Freedom a Good Strategy?

As we see anti-religion laws passed and individuals fined and imprisoned for expressing their Biblical views in Canada and the UK, we Americans shouldn’t be too surprised that our first freedom is being threatened here at home. President Boyd K. Packer, who after a long silence calmly repeated the Church’s orthodox view regarding sexual morality, is being used as a feather in the cap of the Human Rights Campaign. The LDS Church is being harassed, intimidated, and lectured to by this politically powerful sexual liberation group that has captured the vain heart of our culture and media.

We do not know what gives anybody the right to demand anything from a church, but the one big complaint from HRC against the LDS Church is that its doctrines are hurting their people’s feelings. The truth is HRC is exploiting suicides they do not know the underlying causes of, and they are angry that this church is freely expressing its view that so-called alternative sexual identities are excuses for bad sexual manners.

One of our subscribers pointed out that other groups based on sexual immorality that could have had their feelings hurt by President Packer’s words, such as prostitutes, pornographers, and the pedophilia-promoters from NAMBLA, have not attacked the Church. Is it that the people at HRC are so thin-skinned that they can’t tolerate it when a church they don’t even belong to or believe in expresses its doctrines in a privately-owned building in fly-over Utah? No, they are not thin-skinned, although they count on their rank and file to be; they are calculating. They have made headway these other groups have not and now dare to use anything and everything to make the rebellious, the gender-disordered, the sexually-confused, the promiscuous, and the self-inflicted sick and dying look like upstanding victims of bigotry and discrimination.

With the dangers we face in America from radical Islam which promotes death to infidels, including unequivocal violence against those engaging in homosexual behavior, it occurs to us that the HRC should actually be spending a great deal of its resources championing our constitutional freedoms and traditional institutions. Organized religion is a key factor that keeps despotism at bay. Dictating to churches what they can or cannot say, as HRC has done to the LDS Church, is a form of tyranny, and such tyranny could turn around to harm the HRC and its followers in a big way.

In the meantime, it is not too much to ask that while sex activists exercise their freedoms they allow us ours. The fact that noisy homosexualists can’t seem to leave marriage, our churches, and our children alone should be a revelation to all right-thinking, freedom-loving, God-fearing Americans.

Which do you think is more valuable to the well-being of our country? Freedom of religion or unlimited sexual freedom? If proponents of each continue to stand for their beliefs, and the sex activists continue to manipulate government and the Constitution to further their cause, the two cannot peacefully co-exist. One will eventually be forfeited. As things are going we can guess which it will be, and a very bad move for everyone it will be in the long run.

Is anyone out there still not clear on why we call ourselves the Standard of Liberty?

Monday, October 11, 2010

Reply to Recent Comments

Dear Michael, Chelsea, various "Anonymous" souls, and all other individuals who oppose us,

Thank you for reading our blog and sharing your feelings. We appreciate the great amount of emotion behind your comments. But you might want to read our new book Chased by an Elephant, the Gospel Truth about Today's Stampeding Sexuality, before making up your minds. It's about things beyond ourselves: truth, reality, nature, God's law of chastity, and Christ as our Savior, all of which every one of us is free to embrace or reject. It's for Christian parents who wish to pass on their values to their children who are learning all manner of opposite information from the world around them, such as in their schools and in the media.

Surely you agree that we live in a diverse world and that other views (besides sexual liberation and the demonizing of traditional morality and Christianity) should be allowed. In America, freedom to act and speak according to the dictates of one's conscience is still guaranteed to us as well as to you. If you believe, which we don't, that practicing and sharing our intellectual, moral, and religious convictions could cause anyone to end their life, it follows that whatever you do and say could do the same. Have you ever thought that the promotion of your ideas could be hurtful to somebody? For instance, there are many sensitive, feeling people who have left their dark experiences with pornography addiction and unwanted homosexuality behind, and when they share their views or tell their personal stories they are verbally abused and bullied very, very badly indeed by those on your side.

It is best to study these things out from both sides before attacking the accumulated wisdom of the ages and others' experiences. After you have read our books or other materials we would be happy to hear from you again and post any results of critical thinking you have exercised on the timeless realities, scientific facts, and important principles we claim. Remember, we don't engage in or post personal attacks such as those we have received from you.

You may be interested in knowing that we have a riveting new book that will appeal to young adults coming soon called Captain of My Soul, the true story of a young man breaking free from unnatural and unwanted sexual tendencies.

Also in the works is a G-rated picture book called Me Tarzan, You Jane for children about the reality of male and female and natural gender roles and the primary principle behind human mating and marriage. It highlights an essential view stunningly absent in today's anything-but-the-truth mainstream. This book will counter It's Perfectly Normal by Robie H. Harris, a picture book of sexual activist propaganda which contains graphic content promoting all manner of sexual experimentation including masturbation and homosexuality, among other such books that can be found in elementary school libraries which introduce and promote unlimited sex and sexuality to little children.

Friday, October 8, 2010

Beware the Gay Suicide Card

One of the arguments made by critics of the LDS Church on the topic of homosexuality is that its stand causes young people to take their own lives. Detractors are actively using the gay youth suicide card on the LDS Church in the wake of President Packer's talk at the Church’s General Conference, Oct. 3. On Oct. 7, a “silent protest” was held where a group of mostly young people lay down, death-like, outside the gates of the Salt Lake Temple. While we should all mourn suicides, is the Church responsible? Will the words Pres. Packer spoke at a church meeting really cause people to take their own lives as activists are saying?

It has been admitted by activists that lies are acceptable in order to further their cause. One example is, talking about being “born that way,” activists said, “If this is an easier route to acceptance (which may in fact be the case), is it really so bad that it is inaccurate?”

It follows that we must take every pronouncement of a “gay suicide" with a very large grain of salt. In fact, some families of these suicide victims being cited by activists are speaking out.
Affirmation, a group self-described as LDS and pro-gay, in an article about suicides, is warned by family members of young gays David Standley and Todd Ranson who recently died not to jump so quickly to the causes of their deaths.

“David had a very severe mental illness his entire life where he experienced depression that he was unable to overcome. His biological father also committed suicide, which increased his chances to 90 percent that he would also do the same. David had the same mental illness as his biological father and his biological father’s father,” wrote Standley’s mother.

“Some people have said that Todd ended his life because he was gay or felt persecuted by the LDS Church and his family, but this is not true,” a family member wrote on a tribute web site dedicated to him . . . “Todd attempted suicide previously and we know from that experience that his manic depression was a constant thorn in his side and that there were other factors that influenced his suicide.”

As a matter of fact, mentally and emotionally healthy people of all ages do not kill themselves because others disapprove of them. Correction, criticism, and even rejection are part of life. We get disappointed, dropped, dumped, dismissed, disowned, and deceived by others. History is full of individuals and groups, good and bad, being rejected. People are even imprisoned because society cannot accept their behavior. And yet the vast majority do not commit suicide. Therefore, criticism or rejection, including bullying, cannot be blindly accepted as the cause for gay suicides.

A study called “Risk Factors for Attempted Suicide in Gay and Bisexual Youth” (G. Remafedi, 1999), reports that for every year a young person puts off labeling himself gay, the risk of suicide decreases by 20% (See Of course activists do not want this known. We once asked a youth counselor at Utah Pride if she ever tried to dissuade a young teenager from labeling himself gay quite yet and there was total silence on the other end of the phone.

Rather than disapproval or perceived rejection from one’s family or church, could it be that there are hidden factors at work that contribute to gay youth suicides? How about encouragement to adopt a popularized but unnatural sexual label? How about addiction to soul-killing same-sex pornography and promiscuous anonymous sexual encounters? How about the mind-altering drug abuse that goes along with homosex? How about being introduced by adults to behaviors too heinous to mention in polite society? How about being told they are forever homosexual and thinking they will never have a normal sex and family life? How about hearing over and over that gays commit suicide if they aren’t accepted by their family or church? How about confusion, self-loathing, depression, and guilt coming from a young person’s own dark thoughts and behaviors with no hope or resources for deliverance in sight?

As we’ve been hearing, some believe no “serious crisis [should] go to waste.” Please note that schools play down student suicides so as not to encourage copy-cat behavior. We never see gay activists playing down suicides. On the contrary, any suicide they can possibly connect to gayness is shamelessly exploited to further their cause.

Given the above considerations, we should be highly skeptical of sexual activists’ exploitation of any person’s violence against himself.

Also see “Is ‘gay’ agenda to blame for teen suicides?” by Linda Harvey at

Update: It's no surprise to us that soon after this post was published Affirmation  removed the families' remarks about the above young men's real reasons for suicide from their websites.Can anyone doubt how despicable and dangerous the gay suicide lie is?