Friday, October 25, 2013

Seriously Wild Oats

There are many, many people who acted out homosexually in their youth who are now living their lives exclusively heterosexually. Some may say they were merely messing around and never considered themselves gay. If we believe that, why do we believe anybody is gay? If gay isn't lusting after and messing around sexually with people of one's same sex, what is it? Maybe they'll say they were just experimenting, something that is highly promoted to youth by the LGBT community. But how is experimenting defined? How long does that last? Whatever you call it, they must have found pleasure in it or they wouldn't have done it. So weren't they what anyone would call gay or same-sex sexually attracted, at least for a time? And if they aren't gay anymore, isn't that proof that people can change? And in that sense, couldn't we say that all homosexuals are "experimenting?" Aren't we all in that same state of choosing each day how we'll think and act in this life, this great laboratory of learning?

Rather than labeling anyone gay or same-sex attracted, we think it's more accurate to say that many people, for one sad reason or another, sow some seriously wild oats in their youth, and some of those same people never grow up, but continue to sow those oats. Some sow those oats later in life (pornography is one of the main causes), because they get preoccupied with addictive sex to the exclusion of their family and their promises and God. 

In this era of  culture-wide sexual liberation, especially during the arrogance and rebelliousness of youth, more and more souls are acting out in all sorts of pernicious ways. Most college students know about LUGS: lesbians until graduation. These are girls who act out sexually with each other, that is until they leave campus and have to get on with the business of life, marriage, family. You won't hear "gay pride" from these, and yet they acted out identically to those the world thinks of as permanently "gay."

Gay activists even admit that human sexuality is not like ethnicity, but fluid, meaning it can change from day to day. But they don't yet admit this on any cultural scale. The public has been carefully and completely indoctrinated. Facts or no facts, conventional wisdom rules the day: people are born gay; they can't change. It's all hogwash. And it will develop into across-the-board depravity. When people set God and His rules aside, every wrong thing man can conceive of will be allowed sooner or later.

You won't hear much, if anything, from those who acted out homosexually in their earlier years, who eventually wised up and got on with living decent lives. They're ashamed, repentant, sobered, older, humbler. Only because those embracing homosexuality call themselves "gay," we could call these "ex-gay." But all they were was confused, bored, damaged, needy, deceived, addicted, ignorant, vain, rebellious, naughty, foolish, sinful, human, which are qualities common to us all in some degree or form.

When we ignore the fact that homosexuality comprises very bad sexual ideas and manners, and instead buy the popular notion that it's "who people are," we are denying reality. One of those realities is that more and more young people are being lured into sowing their wild sows in this way, and some are smart, mature, humble, repentant, and brave enough to root them out and move on.

These are the ones we should be celebrating and parading through our streets. 

Wednesday, October 23, 2013

Tone and Truth

Tone. Tone. Tone. This is what people complain to us about again and again when they can't think of why something we say is really bothering them. How important is the tone in which you communicate something really important? At some point does it make any difference? For example, who cares about the tone when someone is yelling "LOOK OUT!" or "FIRE!" We submit that complaining about someone's tone is just an excuse to resist the truth.

It's true that when we feel prompted to persuade or teach or testify of something we know to be right and true, we have to be careful to modify our communications to fit the audience. We never want to disrespect anyone as who they are: a perfectly loved child of God. We never want to have any unkind feelings toward others no matter how they react. This is difficult but with practice we can get better at it.

A problem occurs when what you share is met with resistance no matter what tone you use. Sometimes there is so much emotion, fear, pain, and/or pride pushing against what you are saying that the hearer will perceive what you say, no matter how you say it, as contentious, upsetting, unkind, offensive, ignorant, or hateful. As a friend put it, truth is hate to people who hate truth. This definitely happens. We have talked to people, individually or in groups, in the most measured, soft, calm and loving way and have been met with trembling  rage. We have been ordered out of offices, stalked away from, laughed at, sneered at, censured, threatened,  shunned, and called every name imaginable. Indeed, at times when our body language, voice, and heart have been most indicative of love for people, they have hated us most. It's amazing how threatening the truth can be to people even when it comes from the likes of us hobbits. 

This is not to say that our tone is always soft, calm, measured, and loving, although this doesn't happen in public. We get frustrated at times. Sometimes we let things overcomus, which is wrong. Like the prophet Jacob in the Book of Mormon showed when he prayed he wouldn't stumble because of his overanxiety for the people, we have to repent when we let discouragement overwhelm us. It is evidence of lack of faith, even of idolatry. We must return to the peace we can get from God alone, pick ourselves up, apologize, radiate love, and carry on.  We find it has to be a conscious choice to allow the Spirit to replace the frustration.

And then there are times when some degree of righteous indignation is altogether proper. Sometimes people have to know how bad something is. There has to be passion, even some outrage perhaps. But we have to be sure that the sword of truth being wielded is something completely separate from the charity that is required. No bitterness, nothing personal, just love. Jesus taught us how to do this. We can practice and get better at it.

Sad to say, we have found that those who complain of our "tone" here at  SoL are  using that as an excuse to not fully embrace reality and truth. They feel more comfortable sitting on the fence. Well, sorry, tone and truth have really nothing to do with each other. It's like killing the messenger because you don't like the way they are relaying the message. This is of course more about the hearer than the messenger. Mature people look beyond the presentation, beyond appearances, and see the light of truth.We may prefer to listen to some more than others just because of tone, personality, word choice, etc., but our real concern should be about whether what they are saying is true or not.

We have found that when it comes to the emotionally and politically charged issues we deal with at Standard of Liberty, it actually doesn't matter how we say anything anymore. As carefully and kindly as we continually try to put things, without compromising reality and goodness, we are censured by some and hated by some. In wicked times it doesn't take much truth at all to make people anything from uncomfortable to very, very mad.

Tuesday, October 22, 2013

Virtuous, Informed, and Christ-like

There are so many things wrong with the following comment we got in response to our post, "If Being Gay Isn't About Sex," we hardly know where to begin. But we'll make the attempt because the comment is indicative of false but pervasive and harmful public sentiments.

This post is disgusting, naive and lacks any Christ-like attributes.

I wonder, as a woman, would your opinion have been heard or legitimized only 100 years ago? Simply because you were a woman you couldn't even vote. In the day, some men argued that women's suffrage was rooted in moral decay. But today you enjoy the fruits of those battles. You're given respect and your own voice.

What you fail to understand is the reality and pain associated with homosexuality. The prophets have spoken on homosexuality for many years. Most of their teachings on the cause, and cure, of homosexuality have been proven wrong. Current prophets have distanced themselves from those teachings. No longer is the advice, pray and get married. Instead, they admit it is an essential characteristic of an individual and we are to show kindness and love toward all.

Where is your love? Where is your Christ-like compassion? 

1. It's not clear what Janice's female gender has to do with this topic. Are you comparing womanhood with homosexuality, as if homosexuality is a third sex? There are only two: male and female. See Genesis and the Family Proclamation, or would you rather put your foundation in organizations that now claim there are dozens of perfectly normal genders, even up to 63? When any and everything can be a gender, the   distinction between male and female and proper gender roles is lost. This is the Godless, lawless sex activists' objective in order to legitimize all sex acts.

2. Are you saying that homosexualists do not have a voice in today's world? Are you kidding? They are running the place! By the way, homosexuals have never been denied the vote.

3. We do understand the reality and pain associated with homosexuality because we are parents who watched it happen. Are you a parent? Have you experienced the reality and pain of watching your child go through peer and sexual abuse, indoctrination, confusion, and misery?  

4.Truth doesn't change according to the current culture. If you think past prophets were wrong, on what basis do you believe present ones are right? What we believe has to match up with the God's word (scriptures), our leaders, and the Spirit. If these three are not in agreement, something's gone wrong.

5.  You say that what past leaders have said about the causes and cures of homosexuality has been proven wrong. True, some of the "cures" used in the past were cruel and didn't work, and perhaps this is because they were treating only a symptom of much deeper problems, and of course the person has to really want to be free of it. There's no forcing anyone. The truth is there is no evidence that any sort of sexuality is inborn and unchangeable--- hetero, homo, or whatever. What you are relying on is called "wishful science." Even activist gay scientists admit they could not find a gay gene. That's because attitudes and feelings about our God-given sexuality are developed, taught and learned. You might consider that the wrong ideas have been carefully taught to current generations. It only makes sense that we should school our sexuality to fit biology, health, and pro-creation as in generations past.  

6. If current prophets are "distancing themselves" from this issue, you might consider why. There exists relentless pressure on all churches from homosexualists to change their doctrines and policies  to make them contrary to holy scripture. Do you really think it's a good idea to harass and persecute people of God, seeking to destroy their freedom to live and work and worship according to their conscience? Sexual freedom (which is not mentioned in the Constitution) with all its imagined offenses is being given precedence over our real first freedom. This isn't good for anyone.

7. The 1995 Family Proclamation, which has never been recalled, says , "All human beings--male and female-- are created in the image of God . . . Gender [male and female] is an essential characteristic of individual . . . identity and purpose." Do you see how you have used those same words (we put in italics) to construct and trump up some arbitrary extra gender to cover an ancient sin? This is not to say that some people do not suffer from gender identity disorders. If a person's "gender orientation" is not in line with one of the two human biological sexes, something has gone wrong, and this disorder shouldn't be a person's foremost and public identity as if it is normal. (Homosexuality was removed from the APA's list of disorders because of political pressure, not science.)

8. As for love and Christ-like compassion, it is certainly not loving or compassionate not to warn people when they are thinking and desiring and doing wrong and dangerous things. It is actually the epitome of Christlike to warn them even if they then hate you. Jesus said the world would hate people who followed him. He called out devils, identified hypocrites, and cleansed the temple, and was crucified for it. His gospel is not massage therapy but heart surgery.  He cares about our eternal welfare above all and we will miss out unless we change our hearts. The pure love of Christ is not about accepting whatever the current culture has decided is good; it's about valiantly standing for everlasting truth and righteousness because you love God and your fellow man, even if the virtuous, informed, and Christlike ideas you share are labeled "disgusting, naive, and unChristlike." 

Thanks to this anonymous commenter for bringing up these points that need correcting, however many times. God bless him!

Thursday, October 17, 2013

What Everyone Should Know About Alfred Kinsey

Alfred Kinsey (1894-1956) and his so-called spectrum of human sexuality is widely referred to still today by all sorts of people with influence and power, from Oprah Winfrey to trusted professors at religious universities. Even the most well-meaning, conservative, Christian parents are using him as authoritative in teaching their children about sexuality.

This post contains important, shocking, little-known truths about this man. Everyone should know that Alfred Kinsey was a free-love crusader, a misogynist, a fraud, a pervert, and a criminal, posing as a sex scientist (among other things including a boy scout leader). His obsessive "research" (in which he participated personally) was all about "proving" that human beings were born sexual animals and any rules about sex were repressive. He used deliberately skewed population samples and intrusive pornographic interviews/surveys tailored to his desired results (he had all 350 questions memorized). All of his employees were required to participate personally beginning with sharing their sexual histories. He organized "studies" involving masturbation, fornication, adultery, sex orgies, homosexuality, and child sexual molestation (on hundreds, as young as 2-month-old babies), and more, which were viewed by spectators and filmed, all of which were kept secret or he would have lost his funding (from the Rockefeller Foundation). Since the late 1940s when he conducted these depraved sex activities his "findings" have been completely debunked. Kinsey's whole idea that all sexuality and sex acts were equally valuable and acceptable was dangerous, Godless claptrap. Nevertheless, he is the darling of the sexually confused and is called the father of the sexual liberation movement. Hugh Hefner of Playboy fame was a devoted disciple.  

Judith Reisman writes, "The Kinsey claims about America's sexual life in the 1930s and the 1940s have been allowed to take hold and been permitted to stand, affecting all of American life. Though known to be invalid, the data were never withdrawn or recalled by Indiana University or the Kinsey Institute and they continue to be held up . . . and cited as wholly valid . . . " 

Everyone should know who Alfred Kinsey was and the damage he did and continues to do although he died in 1956. No one should quote him as authoritative or refer to him or his "work" as credible. For more information about Alfred Kinsey, read Kinsey: Crimes and Consequences and Kinsey, Sex and Fraud, The Indoctrination of a People, both by Judith Reisman who spent decades bravely uncovering the horrible truth.

Sunday, October 6, 2013

The Marriage Debate:Too Little, Too Late

As state after state falls to the full legitimization of "gay marriage" (there are 13 at this writing), some institutions are still holding out. These traditionalists may be retreating from the public fight, but are insisting they will not give in, policy-wise (whatever that looks like). How long will they hold out? What is causing them to take a stand against homosexuality at this particular point? Their reason can't be God and morality because homosexuality itself is immoral, an abomination before God; they gave up on God and morality a long time ago if and when they accepted the false notion that homosexuality is inborn and pretty much unchangeable, which many have done. Now all they are saying is that they want to keep marriage between a man and a woman for this or that reason, while respecting others' beliefs and hoping that same respect will work both ways. Sorry, that isn't enough. It isn't enough for God. It isn't enough for the poor souls caught up in homosexualism. It isn't enough for our children who are being indoctrinated into embracing unlimited sex and sexuality as normal and harmless. And it isn't enough to stop the juggernaut.

In all their efforts to be tolerant and popular, traditionalists have become completely distracted. Afraid to take a stand against homosexuality itself, when the sexual activists seized upon marriage, the traditionalists gave a deep sigh of relief because now they could stand for something while avoiding being against anything. But of course it's all a pretense. Of course people who are for traditional marriage are also totally against gay marriage, and of course these same people are also totally against the practice of homosexuality because that's what happens in gay marriage, and of course people against anything homosexual are going to be labeled and punished later if not sooner. 
Reality check: Any negative sentiment toward gay marriage (which includes any positive sentiment for traditional marriage) is now being proclaimed discriminatory/anti-gay. It doesn't matter what your "tone" is, how "delicately you put it, or how much you truly love people, any hesitancy at all toward celebrating homosexuality (even warning of the obvious health risks) is now perceived as hate, ignorance, and bigotry. Truth is hate to people who hate truth, says our friend Peter LaBarbera. So if we're trying to avoid being punished, all this magnanimous niceness, all this we're-pro-traditional-marriage-but-of course-we-love-and-accept-and-respect-homosexuality rhetoric is not only intellectually dishonest, it's also for naught. The other day a guy named Craig James got fired from his job at Fox Sports Network because someone dug up the fact that last year when he was running for the U. S. Senate he said he was in favor of marriage as between a man and a woman. Apparently being for traditional marriage, meaning you are against gay marriage, is one of the worst things you can be nowadays. Just last night we were watching a TV show and one of the characters was informed by an acquaintance that her profile on a dating site had obviously been hacked, the clincher being that she said something upsetting about gay marriage, whereupon she went into shock and sputtered how awful this was and of course no one would say such things. There you go.

C. S. Lewis said, "Wherever any precept of traditional morality is simply challenged by the world to produce its credentials, as though the burden of proof lay on it, we have taken the wrong position." In other words, defending man-woman marriage is the wrong position. The real issue, which is the worldwide love affair with sexual license being preferred over religious freedom, reality, health, and safety, has been bypassed and is being neglected. As morality and God and the worth of souls are rationalized and forgotten, one trusted institution after another has made one concession after another, which will eventually lead to, for all practical purposes, the full tolerance of unlimited sex and sexuality. 

It's funny how people think the sexual liberation juggernaut will stop on precisely the spot they want it to stop, right before their own opinion of a legitimate boundary is breached, as if their enemies can read their minds and will oblige them.

The gay movement has been extremely successful. It has captured the public sentiment without any significant direct dissent. Please note that the marriage debate, because it is only a distraction, has not made a dent in the homosexual movement; on the contrary it has bolstered it. Homosexuality is now open and commonplace. It is accepted in our families, our churches, our schools, our entertainment, our businesses, our governing bodies. The traditionalists may still insist that they will never permit same-sex marriage in their institutions, but having already given in on principle, the practice parades on in nevertheless.

Real life case in point: A same-sex couple with children moves into your neighborhood. Legally married in some state or not, they act like a married couple/family and participate in the same school and church and playgroups you and your family do. The same-sex couple arranges playdates with your kids. You know it's possible that the kids will role play and talk and that their unique family situation will come up. You don't want your children to grow up thinking there's nothing wrong with same-sex coupling, but you don't know what to do about it. You're a nice person, so you're stuck. You would never want to break up a family or hurt someone's feelings. No one, no leaders, no teachers, no parents, no, nobody in your church or neighborhood or schools wants to offend anyone either. Everyone just wants to get along and be thought well of. So the fact is, short of relocating, no one will say or do anything negative and all the children touched by this situation will grow up believing there's nothing unusual or wrong about the practice of homosexuality. Parents may even be afraid to teach their children at home that homosexual behavior is wrong for fear of word getting out. In addition, because we will hesitate to teach anything about proper marriage and family for fear of offending homosexuals, children will grow up confused, perhaps even believing homosexuality is to be preferred.

Traditionalists can say all the glowing, insistent words against same-sex marriage they want (and they should, and might help someone), but public sentiment is ruling the day. This is happening because traditionalists doggedly chased the marriage red herring while emboldened homosexuality came, saw, and conquered our society for all practical and social purposes. What those with influence should have done is stood steadfast, bravely and wholeheartedly with God and His Truth, instead of being distracted by the marriage debate. It's ridiculous that marriage is having to "produce its credentials;" men can't mate with men or women with women. Why are we even having this conversation? The root of the issue is: homosexuality in all its forms is perverse and harmful, in principle or in practice, "married" or not.

And let's not forget that godless lawless sexual activists have no boundaries.This is obviously only the beginning.