Monday, June 26, 2017

Dear No-Reply Jordan,


Saturday, June 24, 2017

Living in Occupied Territory

The world changing doesn't mean it's changing for the better. Big shifts in a people's behaviors and ideas and values may be for the better---or for the worse. As C. S, Lewis wrote, when these shifts are based on the whims of men, and not on God's ageless rules and principles, the "new morality" is arbitrary and usually nonbenevolent toward humankind. Anyone with a cursory knowledge of human history knows that. 

We like Matt Walsh's phrase used to describe traditional, God-loving people trying to carry on in society today: We are living in occupied territory. No, we are not hemmed in and physically brutalized or carted off by uniformed men with guns and tanks. So far it's a war of principalities and powers, an attempt at a toxic, tyrannical takeover of the human mind and what it knows to be wise and right. Amid all of today's technology and convenience and ease and pleasure and entitlement, or perhaps partly because of those luxuries, a great swath of society has become an inhumane, anti-Christ dystopia where self-will and sexual licentiousness are respected above all else. Human posterity is despised and the sexual instinct whereby humanity reproduces is corrupted and exploited beyond recognition or sanity. George Orwell said that societies must insist on strict rules for sexual morality as the price of civilization. Civilization as we know it has been forfeited. Barbarians, wolves in sheep's clothing, have taken over.

What does this look like?

Unborn babies, conceived by free will, are brutally destroyed in their own mothers' wombs by the multi-millions. The purpose of the God-given human sex drive, to reproduce and make families, once modeled and treated so tenderly and respectfully, and carefully kept within strict bounds, is prostituted. Young people, even children, are targeted by those in power and authority, objectified sexually, and encouraged to experiment with any and all variations of sexual behavior and opposite-sex role playing. And the two sexes, male and female, are disguised beyond recognition in 92 (and counting) incomprehensible, bizarre, and outrageous invented costumes,where they are paraded in the public city streets.

What this means is that the current new regime---a society that, no matter what pious-sounding words are used, most certainly worships mankind rather than God, that makes up its own rules based on the worst in human nature and the whims and fads of the moment, that cares more about being popular with each other and gratified in this world, all developments of which are definitely nonbenevolent toward mankind---has, for all intents and purposes, taken over the land. And this is no passive movement.

Those who hold fast to God, truth, reality, goodness, and health, are now The Opposition, Enemies of the State. Based on their supposedly protected religious and moral beliefs, they are ignored, censored, called names, shunned, demonized, sued, punished, fined, and jailed. They cannot be tolerated. They must be intimidated, even forced, to keep quiet, to be persuaded, and to comply. An accurate name for this is fascism.

When true principles are cast off in favor of such arbitrary whims as we've seen take root and malevolently proliferate today, what happens it that evil is called good and good is gossiped about as the worst kind of evil. Is it any wonder that sodomy--sterile, maladaptive, and pathological---is the new intercourse, the words mother and father are being stricken from public forums, homosexuality is preached from pulpits, couples who don't support homosexuality are being told they cannot be foster parents while homosexuals are free to foster and adopt children into the homosexual model, men pose as women and women as men, people have doctors mangle their healthy bodies to try to match their tortured minds, and doctors, who wish to save lives, are being coerced to perform or recommend the murder of unborn babies, or lose their licenses?

Those who value freedom, family, God, and religion, who know by education and experience that traditional morality has proven a safe and beneficial guideline for the human race, must retreat underground. George Orwell also said, "In a time of universal deceit telling the truth is a revolutionary act." We are revolutionaries. We are the resistance. We speak and write the truth and print it however we can, come what may. In barbaric Nazi-occupied Europe this was called samizdat, clandestine copying and distribution of literature banned by the state, literally meaning "I self-publish."

But the resistance is small. Most people have shut their eyes, ears, and mouths quite voluntarily.  They are too used to following blindly, too afraid to find out they have been led astray, to sheepish to question the powers that be, in a state of denial that they have been let down by those they trust, too invested in this world. They have put their trust in human beings rather than God.

Strange to say, many people actually think this world here is heaven, rather than what it really is: the telestial kingdom or hell, or at least hell-like in many ways. We're being tested. We're supposed to be learning. We're choosing whom we will follow, Christ or Satan, and where we want to spend eternity.

Everybody needs to take Blaise Pascal's famous wager. Which will you wager on: God or no God? If you wager there is no God, and consequently live a prideful/depraved life, and then it turns out there is no God, you'll go to oblivion and never know the difference. You wagered your life and ended up with absolutely nothing. But if you wager there is a God and live accordingly, you gain everything. Pascal says that only a moron would bet his life on ending up with nothing when he could bet his life on ending up with everything.

But alas, our occupied territory is Godless, as fascist occupied territories before it have been. If God is mentioned, He is made over into whatever this or that human being wants him to be. Even many who pose as Christian turn out to be gushy admirers of Jesus the man, but not true and humble followers of Christ as Lord and Savior. Still, in every regime there are always revolutionaries, underground if need be. In this case, they are those who will carry on as best they can to keep the faith and truly love their neighbor by raising a warning voice and declaring the unpopular truth in any way they can.


Thursday, June 22, 2017

As per mormonandgay Savannah Should Have Her Say!

Image result for savannah testimony meetingSince the 12-year-old came out as a lesbian in church as reported in our previous post, The Sexualizing of Savannah, we are reposting "Meet the Gay Mormons" below from 10/25/16 with several paragraphs added illuminating the pro-gay stance of the official LDS Church as per its web page, mormonandgay.lds.org. Funny how most Mormons have probably never seen this web page, or thought about it much. It's a big deal. Maybe it should be required reading. Maybe people need to face what is happening in their own church, make of it what they will.

First a little intro. At mormonandgay.lds.org several Mormon gays were recruited to be filmed telling their pro-gay sexuality stories for all the world to see and sympathize with. So why was young Savannah's mic cut off and she told to sit down? This is a fair question. She was doing exactly what they do on this official web page.

With encouragement like this, what do people expect to happen in church meetings, yes, where youth and children are present? Granted, there are no gay minors shown on mormonandgay. But nowhere are any such lines drawn either. See photo of Savannah at a gay pride parade/festival. People need to know that there are always lots of kids at these sexual exhibitionist events. Sad to say, Savannah herself has been immersed by adults in this adult perverse sexuality to the point where she has no qualms pushing the idea of homosexuality onto other children. Pushing unlimited sexuality on children is the crux of the gay agenda. They can't reproduce so they must recruit. Gays are also known to be highly predatory. Initiating the young is commonplace in this lifestyle. Case in point: Savannah.

By the way, Savannah's prepared speech, pretty much written by her parents,or rather her mother and her "other parent" (what's that all about?), specifically insists she can't make anybody gay by association. Interesting how gays often make this strange assertion, at the same time very publicly glorifying their lifestyle. They turn themselves into a flashy, attention-getting advertisement for homosexuality, and then assure people it won't spread! What? Selling something is what advertising and web sites and propaganda and pornography are all about. The question is, what are you peddling, something worthwhile and true and good, or the opposite? Savannah, in her boy's shirt and tie (we guess this is a passive-aggressive nose-thumbing at proper gender roles), coached by adults, is introducing a destructive idea about human sexuality she says is perfectly fine---from the pulpit. Why wouldn't others, especially vulnerable children like herself, be motivated to entertain and explore that idea? It's like seeing a commercial for a juicy hamburger and becoming interested or curious or hungry, which motivates you to go out and find and buy and try that exact hamburger. People do such things every day.   

Still don't believe the Church is so very pro-gay these days? Yes, it still takes a bit of a stand against gay marriage (in a handbook at the back of leaders' desks), but many members, even very vocal/well-known members, are now for gay marriage, which stance appears to be perfectly fine with the leadership. But there's a whole world of gayness that has nothing to do with the fake marriage spectacle. That was just a stratagem to further the agenda. People need to think about what's going on on mormonandgay. Read on.

Meet the Gay Mormons (Revisited)

Note: Apparently, not all church leaders agree on certain aspects of this issue, nor do members. We at SoL have been given to understand that strong differing opinions are understood and tolerated within the church. SoL's view is not based on current cultural trends and sentimental human relations and  emotional stories but on Scripture, universally true principles, real charity, and timeless objective moral standards that come from God. 

The following is our response to the new page, mormonandgay.lds.org. And we've also been reading some of the responses from the other side. It seems this is yet another effort to make everyone happy which has resulted in nobody being made happy, at least not the ones who take this issue seriously. It's astonishing that the Word of God does not have the first, middle, and last word. The Bible is absolutely clear about homosexual lusts and behaviors being wicked and repentance through Christ being available and necessary to all who care about God and eternal life. We think Mormon homosexualists know that they are at opposition with Scripture, as in the Standard Works, as in the Standard for the regulation and spiritual growth of all immortal souls. It looks like they have to work very hard to justify their moral relativism and denial of the plain and precious gospel, God's plan, which comprises sin and possible repentance and redemption through Christ. It doesn't matter if people are born that way, which they aren't, or not; these lusts and all degrees of behaviors are destructive and sinful. Sex and sexuality are serious; if misused somebody gets hurt.

Here are some of our specific thoughts about this mormonandgay.lds,org.

This page boasts diverse individuals' stories but neglects to show any of the people who have resisted and overcome homosexuality. (We know plenty and have ourselves published two books on this subject, My Darling From the Lions and Captain of My Soul, highly endorsed and prefaced by experts, yet rejected by leading LDS publisher Deseret Book. D.B.'s books on this topic are gay-affirming and have no expert endorsements. Make of that what you will.)

Christ's gospel of sin, repentance, and redemption is not emphasized, rather it argues in favor of the human will and the weakness of homosexual lust.

The Atonement is mischaracterized as something that can make us comfortable with our sinfulness rather than humbling and changing and purifying our desires.

The dark, broken, rebellious, pornographic, addictive, promiscuous, narcissistic, dangerous world of homosexual lust and how people get into it is completely ignored.

Homosexuality is portrayed as a harmless orientation rather than a disorder or sin. (Why would a girl be interrupted in her advocating of lesbianism in testimony meeting if lesbianism is harmless? No one official has said this is inappropriate to say in church. It's on the Church's website!)

Homosexual behaviors, supposedly still prohibited, are not clearly defined. Therefore, any individual or ward leader can choose to put up boundaries, or not, anywhere they please.

Mormon gays are shown as sympathetic characters because they are not officially allowed the full perverse and dangerous physical homosexual contacts they desire, although these are not defined. Again, all of this is up to untrained local leaders to define and discipline or not.)

No concern is shown for the obvious depravity or emotional and mental illnesses of the gays highlighted, or gays in general. How unkind is that?

"Authenticity," as in embracing the natural man as is and sharing one's feelings, is considered the highest value and most helpful attribute. Not reality, not truth, not goodness, not virtue, not humility, not repentance, not forgiveness, not improvement, not learning, not growing, not love of God and His word. Just authenticity. Who is to say Savannah's "testimony" was not "authentic?" So why did they cut her mic? The truth is, authenticity of itself isn't worth much. A serial killer is authentic. Thieves are authentic. So what? What matters is what you believe in; if it's right or wrong, good or bad. It is incredible that certain people's trendy pro-gay stories, which all sound pretty much the same, are held in the highest esteem by many, regardless of holy scripture and regardless of the crimes or causes or illnesses behind these stories. In reality these stories are not authentic at all; that's why we put it in quotation marks. At best they are memorized talking points, whitewashing, denial, incomplete, deceptive, and justification for sin.

Mormonandgay offers zero help for healing from horrific child sexual abuse, as in the sad case of Ricardo. He explains how at a very young age he was seduced and initiated into homosex by predatory older males, which he admits had a huge influence on him (and obviously interfered with normal sexual development). Astonishingly, the story is apparently included to convince us to embrace this person's resulting choice for a homosexual lust identity rather than to show evidence of serious crimes against him as a child and his ruined life. He says that sharing his feelings helped him see that "nothing is broken or needs to be fixed." Oh really?

There appears to be some disconnect on what sexual purity and healthy sexuality actually are as in the case of lesbian Laurie who says, "The gospel has not made me attracted to men. But it has helped me be attracted to one man." What? Aren't we all supposed to keep our sexual attraction focused on one person---our spouse? This statement shows some seriously obsessive wrong-headedness by way of sexually objectifying human beings in general. It seems that gays/lesbians walk into a room and see sex and sexuality, not people.

The greatest available comfort for gays is shown to be, not God's love and truth, repentance through Christ, and spiritual guidance, but human relations by way of venting one's feelings on others. How well does this work? Tanya tells about her son who was so relieved to "come out" but who was still so depressed that he only lasted 5 months on his 2-year mission. Once home he was put in a ward leadership position! This is how we deal with spiritual death and sexual sin and confusion and mental illness? 

Perhaps the most disturbing part of this web page concerns the now popular worldview of professional therapy for gays. In a nutshell, LDS therapists are instructed to confirm the gay person's gayness, regardless of any previous abuse, underlying trauma, or pathology, regardless of the Hippocratic oath, regardless of the therapist's knowledge, experience, and life's work, regardless of his convictions about God or morality and his constitutionally protected right to exercise them, regardless even of a client's fervent wish to repent, heal, and change! Not only is this website saying: Be gay but don't actually live gay, but to the therapists it is saying: Be Christian but don't actually live Christian. This is what is called crazy-making. Thomas Jefferson called it tyranny over the mind of man.

An enlarged, colored pull-quote from the website states: "When one seeks therapy, the Church recommends approaches that respect 'client self-determination.'" (The way they have put 'client self-determination' in quotes is right! Gayness is a personal whim, a huge fad in today's world, that has no biological, scientific, or medical diagnosis.) In others words, when a proudly self-determined gay person (who probably has much worse problems that will now go unaddressed) is looking for some sort of validation or resolving of conflict between their religion and their popular homosexual proclivities, church leaders recommend they find a therapist who will respect their popular homosexual proclivities. This is not help! That is encouraging that person toward misery, high-risk behaviors, and yes, hell.


Please note that there is no mention of any kind about therapists helping a person heal and change and overcome homosexuality, even if that is what they seek!  "While shifts in sexuality can and do occur for some people, it is unethical to focus professional treatment on an assumption that a change in sexual orientation will or must occur." Even though they include this statement: "The individual has the right to define the desired outcome," it obviously refers only to gay-affirmation. How clever and cunning. Apparently, from this web page we are to believe that change from homosexuality is not something that will or must happen, and yet it has happened and God says it must happen! No unclean thing, especially a dirty mind or sullied soul, can dwell in God's presence. For the honest person who has become involved in the sleaze of homosexuality and is miserable, this is nothing short of cruel. And they go on, digging ever deeper holes: "For someone who experiences same-sex attraction, or identifies as gay, counseling may help the person approach his or her sexuality in healthier, more fulfilling ways." What health and fulfillment can come from homosexuality, especially when the church prohibits acting on it??? More crazy-making! What is really occurring here, whether leaders know it or not, is systematic activism toward the full acceptance of homosexual behaviors in the church.

SoL knows who is behind this web page. It's people we've written about before who wish to remake the church and the gospel of Jesus Christ to include homosex. They have set themselves up as a light, have the ear of some leaders and put endless pressure on them, and patiently push their agenda in every possible way. They are openly against reparative or change therapy, even though they are forced to admit "shifts in sexuality can and do occur." These people could sell refrigerators to Eskimos. They have got the church stating that people who wish to change and want counseling in that direction are not to be helped in that way because these pro-gay pseudo-therapists, some of which are homosexuals themselves, insist it should not happen. They are in essence preaching there is no law, no sin, and no repentance/Savior required. For Mormons who take scripture seriously, this should sound very familiar.

Please keep in mind that what is happening here goes far beyond any issue concerning mere temptations of the flesh.  Most people don't realize that the push for homosex is only a means to an end. We are confronted here with principalities and powers, the stuff of anti-Christs. Who knew this would be the road taken to that destination? But let's finish our analysis of mormonandgay.

These people use total psychobabble to further their agenda. First it is admitted that people can change from gay to straight, then they say that it is unethical to deliberately help them do that. It makes no sense, unless you're all about pushing homosex. In addition, the therapist, a free agent in his own right, trained in making people well, is supposed to take his marching orders from the sick/troubled person who has come to them to get better--that is, in the way the sick person wants to get "better." No right or wrong, no health or sickness, no getting to the roots of problems, just make the gay person feel good about their choice of  . . . well, pornography. The whole gay thing is pornographic and pornography is its mainstay. It's a case of lunatics running the asylum. 

And another thing. If Mormon gays are never supposed to act out their sexual fantasies in any way, why does everybody need to know about them? Isn't the management of one's personal sexuality a private part of life for everyone, single or married?  Aren't gays exactly the same as other members in this way? In other words, why do these particular people feel free to make their private sexual feelings public (as seen on mormonandgay and Savannah's case) , and what is everybody else supposed to do about it? The web page does not make this clear. We can only assume that we are being instructed to treat self-proclaimed gays as more special than anyone else and never to help them overcome their miserable oversexed minset--why? Because this fits in with what the world is doing? So aren't local leaders supposed to let members of any age and any sexual orientation/gender identity (there are 92 at last count), including Savannah, tell everybody all about their heart-felt felt-needs, felt-hopes, and current sexual feelings? Why not in church? It's not even as public as the internet. Oh, unless they record what happens there and put it online. 

It appears that this page exists, at least in part, to indoctrinate the general membership into especially recognizing homosexuals, accepting perverse sexual lust as immutable, ignoring sexual abuse and emotional and mental illness, and treating open homosexuals as healthy, harmless fellow congregants/leaders. So why couldn't Savannah finish her speech? Apparently, what happened was merely a glitch. The person in authority who spoke after Savannah sure didn't correct anything she said or say anything clearly against homosexuality. How confusing is that?

Whatever a church may say or print about its ultimate disapproval of this age-old sin that got two cities burned to the ground by the Lord is completely drowned out by the "respect" and "acceptance" we are being coerced to exercise regarding a person's self-proclaimed harmful and unnatural sexual attractions. Apparently, our human relations and interests, no matter how steeped in sin we humans are, are more important than truth, our relationship with the Godhead, and the welfare of our immortal souls. Apparently homosexuality, once considered a vice so ugly that polite society would not name it, is now touted by churches as an attractive characteristic.

Yes, on this web page we are privileged to meet the gay Mormons. Apparently gay is just another interesting and world-friendly kind of Mormon we can boast we include in our midst. And activists know that if self-identified homosexuals are shown as sympathetic characters on the church's website they'll soon be fully accepted by its congregations, no questions asked.


In light of this very fair assessment of mormonandgay.lds.org (that most Mormons don't know exists or don't think through--how's that for unity and clarity?), is it any wonder that young Savannah, encouraged by the world, her parents and entourage, even the Church, was emboldened to come out in a church meeting? According to mormonandgay.lds.org, she is perfectly respectable and allowed to share her "self-determined" and not-to-be-changed sexuality. So, again, why was she cut short and told to sit down? Don't these local leaders know the Church's attitude toward gays as per this web page? If not, why not? Aren't these local leaders in big trouble for being ungracious and unkind and unChristian toward a homosexual? The only reason we can think of why they finally told her to sit down is because she was actually saying she wanted to live the gay life-style someday, as in getting "married." And yet as we've pointed out, many fine upstanding church members openly advocate for gay marriage (i.e.homosexual sexual behaviors), in public and in church, so where is the problem?

Where is our gay-affirming Church's statement denouncing this horrific and highly publicized event? Perhaps it's not there because they don't know what to say except the convenient excuse that they leave these things up to local leaders. Again, how's that for unity and clarity? If ye are not one, ye are not mine, said Jesus. Orthodox members, if they are honest and paying any sort of attention, are confused and frustrated by what is happening. Contradictions, inconsistencies, uncertainties, and equivocations abound. Morale is low, to put it mildly. If we at SoL could have our way, when Savannah, even though a tender adolescent, first began preaching lesbianism from the pulpit, every single person in that chapel would have stood up and quietly walked out. But people aren't thinking. And the reaction of the people in charge was too little, too late. Damage done.

What would have been more in keeping with mormonandgay would have been what a former bishop of ours told us he would do if the same sort of thing happened in our ward: NOTHING (except maybe have a family night about it at home with his own kids!).

Once given an inch gay activists will take a mile. And they will never stop. There are no boundaries for homosexualists, Mormon homosexualists included, or at least no boundaries except the arbitrary ones they choose. By equivocating with gay activism, churches everywhere are painting themselves into a nightmarish policy vs. doctrine corner they cannot get out of. No one in this dead-end lifestyle is helped by society pretending there is nothing wrong with it.

To borrow from and add to Roger Scruton, "The triumph of sin [and illness and insanity and sexual impurity and child sexual abuse and Godlessness and evil being called good and good evil, and every other bad thing] comes with our failure to perceive [and unequivocally oppose] it.

Why does SoL go to all this trouble to point this out? Because things only get fixed when people realize they are broken. Nobody turns to Christ unless they realize they are sinners.

Tuesday, June 20, 2017

The Sexualizing of Savannah

On Sunday, May 7, 2017, Savannah Ward, age 12, read a prepared speech at a Provo, Utah LDS church meeting where once a month any and all congregants are invited to extemporaneously share their brief testimonies of Jesus Christ. Instead of her testimony about God's eternal plan for His children, righteousness, sin, and humble repentance through Christ's atoning sacrifice, she came out as a lesbian, a 12-year-old lesbian, mind you, and spouted Mormon gay activist talking points straight out of the proverbial gay pride handbook. Much too late, she was asked to take her seat. Savannah's coached sophistries went uncorrected.  A video, secretly taken of the event, and her speech in its entirety, was posted on facebook and has gone viral.

There is so much wrong with this picture we hardly know where to begin. These are my observations from a Mormon/woman/mother's point of view.

We know from news reports on the internet how Savannah's mother feels. She is all for her daughter beginning a life of sterile and perverse lesbianism. Sex without mating, marriage without a husband, children without a father don't seem to be any sort of problem for her. But how should a mother with natural affections for her child feel when her prepubescent child is caught up in ideas about adult sexuality of a high-risk and unnatural kind?


I am a mother whose child was exposed to homosexuality in his teens. After the initial shock, I was hit with the heartbreak of his compromised safety and innocence. His developing sexuality had obviously been messed with. I felt it was my job as a responsible parent to find out the full extent of the damage. Where and how had he gotten these wrong and dangerous ideas? Next I felt I must help my child unlearn those wrong ideas and reinforce correct attitudes and male and female roles. Nowhere do I see any of this happening in Savannah's case. How tragic! I learned that homosexuality may only be a symptom of deeper misconceptions and problems that need to be addressed as soon as possible, or worse things could happen.

Every step on my child's road to repentance and recovery was difficult and heart-wrenching. That was 15 years ago. How our culture and environment have changed since then! It is easy to see how many parents, like Savannah's, are taking the easy road these days, especially in light of the attention, popularity, and "compassion" people get for coming out as gay --- at any age! I see such parents as cruel and exploitive. Note the 2 1/2 million views their video has and the overwhelming supportive and gushingly flattering comments. If that's not attention I don't know what is! (Note 6/25 Savannah's story made the New York Times, trashing the church and congratulating the girl.)

Here are some more specific observations relative to Savannah's pronouncements. 

First, that wasn't a testimony. It was a statement from an adolescent about her self-determined  alternative sexuality, which sexuality happens to be highly politicized and popular in our world today. People get lots of attention for these sorts of announcements.

Second, nobody writes down their testimony to give in Fast and Testimony meeting. She says her parents helped her through multiple rough drafts. So here we have a prepared speech, a carefully thought-out exploitation of a sacred religious meeting for selfish reasons in order to persuade the unwitting captive audience (they didn't come to church to hear that kind of thing) toward an opposing worldview, all about something that everyone else keeps very private, all with the encouragement of her parents. 

Third, we're not supposed to electronically record what happens in the chapel. But somebody did that and obviously planned to do it from beginning to end in order to publicize it, no matter what happened. It's as if these parents weaponized their daughter to further homosexualism!

Fourth, there is so much more to this story nobody is asking about or telling. Does this young girl even know what lesbian means? She says she doesn't like boys and wants to hold hands with and kiss girls. Here, a very normal feeling has been wrongly sexualized. There is often great affinity between same sexes, and often great trepidation toward the opposite sex, at this early stage of puberty. Has everyone forgotten this? I haven't.

In my adolescence I had a best best best friend of my same sex. We were inseparable. As for boys, in sixth grade when a boy slipped me his boy scout ring in a napkin with a note asking me to go steady, I panicked, running home from school and begging my mother to help me get out of it. I was Savannah's age when I was so scared to go to a party where a boy I knew was going to ask me to dance that I stepped on a bee on purpose because I knew my foot would swell up like a balloon! Which it did, and to my even worse embarassment the disappointed boy guessed what I had done! Today much less than this supposedly makes a young girl a lesbian. What nonsense.

How have Savannah's normal relationships and sexual development been interrupted? Child abuse? Peer abuse? Pornography? Internet indoctrination? Associations? Initiated by someone older? Some TV show, book, or movie? School? Role models? In other words, how was she introduced to lesbianism? Where did she get the idea? Much to my amazement, when we were helping our son, I found out that attitudes toward sexuality are learned; sexuality is developed, in healthy or unhealthy ways. That development depends on what is modeled and taught and encouraged at critical times. According to 12-year-old Savannah, Ellen Degeneres is her hero. Is there any doubt that Savannah is being taught lesbianism in today's oversexed, gay-worshiping, youth-targeting culture? And with her parents' and all the world's help, homosexuality is being cemented in her mind.

Fifth, does this young, physically undeveloped girl know anything about human sexuality or the sex act and what it is for? Does she know anything about being a wife and mother? What gender roles and attitudes toward marriage and motherhood have been modeled? She is obviously a precocious,  presumptuous, and curious adolescent. Why are her mother and father, and why is everyone else, so eager to sexualize and exploit this vulnerable young girl in this destructive way? Why do they want to ruin her future?

By the way, notice how gay narrative has abandoned the "born-that-way" excuse? That was a phony means to a nefarious end. Nowadays it's all about authenticity, personal stories, how you feel at any particular time, and the "courage" to blab to the world all about your unusual personal sexual feelings, whatever they happen to be at the time. Any sex, any age, any body. It's incredible how adults with plenty of life experience, even church-goers, have swallowed this Godless, humanistic, new "morality" hook, line, and sinker, even to the point of sacrificing their own children on its sleazy altar.

As a wife of 43 years, mother of 7, and grandmother of 25, and simply as a female, I see any exposure to or encouragement of lesbianism toward this tender, immature girl as a despicable form of child sexual abuse and a cruel miscarriage of healthy, normal, and fulfilling womanhood, proper marriage, and motherhood. The gay lifestyle, besides being naturally sterile, oversexed, and basely pornographic, is fraught with greatly increased physical, emotional, and spiritual dangers. Shame on parents, shame on our culture, shame on everybody who has any part in encouraging it.

-Janice Graham


Sunday, June 4, 2017

Two More Family Tales

In our previous post, A Tale of Two Families, we talked about two of the ways families deal with a gay family member. There are more nuanced reactions than full-on acceptance of homosexuality as an immutable identity or treating it like it is: a perverse, pleasureable sin that needs to be repented of, no matter what the cause. Here are a few we are seeing a lot of.

The parents, siblings, grandparents, etc. know homosexuality is perverse and wrong, and because of this or that reason are attracted to the there-must-be-an-opposiste-sex-evil-spirit-that-has-taken-over explanation. While there are such things as evil spirits, we've never heard of them taking this form in such a situation as we have today. The world is pro-gay. It's accepted, it's praised, it's paraded in the streets. No evil spirit needed!

It's true that some people repress traumatic events such as child sexual abuse. They may need special help to unearth these abuses, confront them, and gain understanding why they feel the way they do, and so be enabled to then heal and repent. Maybe people call those bad memories an evil spirit. Maybe some people believe these proclivities can be cast out and their lives are changed. We are hearing of  many people who have left homosexuality behind through exorcism. Of course the individual must have a sincere desire to leave their proclivities and behaviors behind if they are to benefit from any such help.

Be that as it may, being overtaken by an evil spirit and choosing to sin are different things. The first takes any control away from the individual; the second is completely up to the individual. Perhaps there are grey areas where harm or emotional illness is present. In our case, we know if we had suggested to our loved one when he was involved in homosexuality that he was possessed of an evil spirit, this would have greatly frightened and confused him even more. He knew exactly what he was doing and he knew it was wrong. Doesn't sound like an evil spirit unless we all have evil spirits at one time or another. Jesus cast out devils, yes, but wasn't this like any other of his miracles, as an indication of his power so he could get people's attention and teach them the gospel? We are fallen, we are human, we are tempted, and we are accountable for our thoughts and acts. It's the human condition.

Here at SoL our experience has convinced us that, as Alma says, the gospel is more powerful to change us than anything else, even the sword. It seems a bit convenient to blame an evil spirit on something so obvious and common and simple as a sin of the flesh. But evil spirit or not, repentance through Christ is the best way to change our desires, and we are promised that it works. 

Rather than being possessed of an opposite-sex evil spirit, we think that today, given the sexually permissive, pornographic, pro-gay environment we live in, it is more likely that the individual has come in close contact with homosexuality and has decided to try it out. Unless the person is truly emotionally or mentally ill, agency is the key. The "gay" person has a mind and a heart of his own. The world around him is teaching something that for any number of unfortunate reasons caught his imagination and he's going with it. It's sexual, it's pleasurable, it's exiting, it's cool, it's trendy, and apparently there are no limits. People even say he's courageous. He's getting lots of attention, at least in that way. Yeah, he's having the time of his life. So we hesitate to recommend that these people are possessed of evil spirits. Perhaps some are.

Generally speaking, we have observed that homosexuality is an age-old temptation,  a way to explain bad things, a way to be naughty, a way to escape pain, a way to be rebellious, a way to be wicked, a way to get thrills, or a way to thumb your prideful nose at God. It's not surprising at all that this is what more and more young people are choosing if you think about sexual and peer abuse, how gay-affirming our society has become, pro-gay propaganda, ubiquitous gay-recruiting resources on the internet, the easy availability and attraction of pornography enflaming sexual feelings, older gays initiating the young, pervasive social media constantly encouraging homosexualism, and the groundswell of secular humanism pervading the culture. Apparently, man has given himself super powers and needs no God.

Another reaction we're seeing is when the family knows it's wrong and, at first, says something or other against it, draws a line or two, but then gives in when the gay family member ignores their wishes and insinuates themselves and their partner(s) into every family gathering. We've seen how gays insist on long talks with their parents and siblings on the wonderfulness of their homosexuality. We've seen how they win some family members over in order to divide the family and put pressure on (bully) those resisting. We've seen how they manipulate and charm their family members into shrugging their shoulders and handing out hugs.

We call this turning a blind eye. The family knows their son or brother is behaving badly, they know this isn't who he is, but they'd rather keep the peace than enforce any rules or openly stand against it or speak up regularly in words of truth and warning. Parents and siblings and extended family want the family member around so they ignore or whitewash his lifestyle in their minds. They make his dangerous sexual choices and habits none of their business, even though it's all over facebook.

Families may even presume that their magnanimous love and acceptance of the acting-out family member will somehow, someday, bring them back to their senses. Hmm. Again, where in the scriptures does it say that this happens? Where in life does this happen? Nowhere. You can't go along with something wicked as if it isn't wicked and expect it to go away. It will only increase. And all sorts of unimagined harm and destruction will occur. What will they do when this grown gay man gets HIV/IDS? And starts recruiting his nephews? It's happened. Did you know that 92% of new HIV/AIDS cases are males age 13-25? Did you get that? Age 13-25.

This okay-we-know-it's-wrong-but-we'll-put-up-with-it-to-keep-the-family-together reaction may be the most common. Or maybe not. Maybe most people completely fool themselves. Who knows?
Either way, the emphasis is certainly not on using the gospel of  essential divine redemption for inevitable sin, which is the Lord's solution. When people use the Lord's solutions (humbly turning to Christ, repenting continually, loving truth, exercising faith in God's plan, putting God first), no matter what their wayward child does, they are comforted, guided by the Spirit, and will grow spiritually by leaps and bounds.

The point is, there are many strange roads people are taking, roads that do not lead to righteousness, goodness, and Christ. This is what happens when human relations and being nice and keeping up appearances are what you care more about than God and truth and the welfare of souls.

Sunday, May 28, 2017

Drawing Line After Line

We went to an extended family temple wedding the other day. When it was over we were exiting by way of the foyer and saw an extended family member who has made it very public that he is gay, and his sex partner. They were making a big production in the middle of the room about tying this grown man's tie. Being the center of attention in some way appears to be their modus operandi. Now, this homosexual relationship is common knowledge. And they increasingly insinuate their relationship into family events, even though they have been told not to. Sadly, parents and grandparents have pretty much given up trying to take a stand. The result is the normalization, even the encouragement, for all, including young children and teens, to see, of open homosexual identity and behavior.

It didn't take much thought. It was obvious what we had to do, sad and uncomfortable as it was. We decided that we had to skip the family photos and the luncheon and the reception, later leaving our gift with the parents of the groom. We found out we will not only forego gay weddings, we will forego gatherings we know will be attended by openly proud gay couples, i.e. sodomites.

We are having to draw yet another line we will not cross,this time concerning family get-togethers.

Let us break this down a little. Would you attend a party where openly proud pedophiles/child molesters were present and generally welcome? How about porn producers or stars? Or pimps? Or child sex slave recruiters, all who make their proclivities and activities widely known? Would you mingle with them socially? Would you shake their hands? Would you break bread with them? Would you have your children around them? Would you want your photo taken with such people under these accepting, normalizing, equalizing conditions? Where would you draw the line? Would you draw any line at all?

Would these gay guys draw any line anywhere? Who knows? Who knows how desensitized they have become? But you can bet these flagrant homosexuals are all about not giving others the courtesy of drawing any lines they don't happen to like. As we've said, they have been asked not to flaunt their relationship at family gatherings. In other words, at the very least, the sex partner is not to be there. Apparently they ignore this request completely, and the heads of the family have given up trying to enforce their request. It seems that the family heads delude themselves into thinking this "couple" doesn't do anything sexual, as if they are mere roomates. If this weren't so blind and pathetic it would be laughable. Ask any gay couple: Of course your relationship isn't sexual, is it? They will get a good laugh.

How's that for gays pushing their weight around? How's that for gays insinuating their lifestyle into wholesome family events and situations? How's that for gays having zero respect for those who are brave enough to hold to the truth that these age-old sins are harmful and destructive? How's that for gays not caring about anybody but themselves and their current proclivities?

We don't go to Target anymore. We don't watch entertainment that portrays homosexuality as healthy and normal and harmless. We avoid some church activities and meetings altogether which are led or taught or hosted by liberals/homosexualists and the like, and walk out of those that prove to preach the philosophies of men and false doctrines rather than timeless truths and the plain and precious gospel of Jesus Christ.  (Have you noticed how very popular such teachers are? People gush on and on. It's easy to see why. Their false humility, flashy performance, edgy language, cultural savvy, and flattering words are calculated to set themselves up as a light. If you've read the Book of Mormon this should sound very familiar.)

In short, we at SoL don't support homosexualism, at least as far as we are able. It's getting harder and harder to distance ourselves. Practically everyone and everything is pro-gay in some measure these days. But in taking a stand we prove to ourselves and to the Lord what we love most and we avoid encouraging these goings-on with our presence or our Amens.

Yes, Godless secular humanism and the trendy wickedness of the day have crept into our families and churches and schools and government and entertainment and social interactions, all under the false disguises of compassion and religion and enlightenment and justice and art and niceness. This is what our culture has come to. Are you willing to draw any lines? Any lines at all?


Sunday, May 7, 2017

Lusts and Lies

There is misinformation going around about physical attraction, which confusion is being used to excuse homosexuality and promote homosexualism. The lie being propagated, and actually persuading people, is that everybody is sometimes attracted to people they are not supposed to be attracted to. And since everyone is attracted inappropriately, it's okay or normal, or at least okay and normal for homosexuals. Crazy, but people are buying it.

Such a conversation might go like this:

A: It's wrong to be same-sex attracted. They can get help and repent."

B: Well, have you ever been attracted to someone other than your spouse?

A: Well . . . yes.

B: There you go! People can't help being attracted to whoever they find attractive.

We'll continue that later. So far, it's all wrong. It's not the right story or the whole story. It's a false distraction and a clever way of making people think there's nothing wrong with homosexuality. Let's break it down.
 
What is lust? Is it the same thing as noticing that someone is an attractive person? Or is it purely sexual? Are human beings able to control lust, that is, sexual attraction? Is lust always bad? Is love lust?

We are bringing up these questions because the world has got them upside-down and backwards. And people are buying it! So let's answer them correctly.

Lust is very strong sexual desire that is out-of-bounds. Lust is one of the seven deadly sins. It consists of thinking, fantasizing, daydreaming graphically about sex and sexual desire, alone or generally or with others. It is a selfish pleasurable sexual objectification of people and even things. Thinking dirty, talking dirty, masturbation, pornography, prostitution, lasciviousness, promiscuity, rape, child sexual abuse, homosexuality, and the like, are all lust-based, although other sins may play a part, such as power over others, greed, and idolatry.

Lust is never a good thing. It has nothing whatever to do with love and kindness. It is not the same as wholesome attraction between a male and female. It has nothing to do with seeing or feeling an impersonal attractiveness in people or clothing or talents or art. Lust is the line that is crossed when a wholesome attraction or perception of beauty turns to purely selfish sexual feelings.

People cannot help seeing whether a person is male or female. They can't help seeing the shapes of people, their skin, or their features. This is simply because God gave us eyes and we have learned what to find beautiful. We can't help seeing innocent attractiveness in people, or beauty in works of art or the ballet, for example. In other words, we all notice attractive people and beauty.

Nor can people help noticing blatant immodesty or seductiveness. It's sad, but there it is.

What people can help is what they do with these images, in their minds to begin with. Lust is when a person turns that innocent loveliness or that immodesty, seductiveness, even that nakedness, into something purely sexual inside their own heads and hearts. Think about it. Jesus could see anyone in any condition of dress or undress, in any condition of innocence or wickedness, and not turn that person into a sex object. It's possible! No one should go around thinking lewdly, that is, objectifying and lusting after anybody. Lust is always bad, because it is always low and always purely selfish.

The fact that people are actually going around saying that noticing someone is physically attractive is the same as lust, shows how far our pop culture has come in sexualizing human beings. This used to be called having a dirty mind. Beauty, the human form, human flesh, has been made over into sexuality first and foremost. This is what our debauched sexually permissive culture promotes. Many people have no qualms about the idea of lewdly and lustfully undressing anybody they see or meet in their minds.

It's no wonder human sexuality is taking every possible turn. Everyone and everything is sexualized, when the truth is, sexuality should only be used properly, lovingly, unselfishly, solely between husbands and wives. In fact, decent people do not think about anyone other than their spouse in terms of the decent people's personal sexuality at all, or know they shouldn't and take care not to. Think of doctors and nurses, parents, families, friends, coworkers. There should be nothing sexual there toward others, whether clothed or naked. 

Lust has no part in being sexually attracted to someone you intend to get to know and perhaps marry. In addition, good couples who are dating or engaged or married do not think only sexually about their loved one. They think of the whole person and often put the other person's wishes before theirs.

A friend was visiting our home several years ago and made a casual comment about our 2 or 3-year-old that was strange. "Oooh, sexy," she said. A toddler sexy? Wrong. She may have been referring to the child's grace, her comely shape, her attractiveness. But sexy? Please.

People need to read good literature (and not read bad literature). Classics, including the scriptures, refer to people often as fair, the fairest in the land, attractive, beautiful, lovely. No one can help noticing someone extraordinarily attractive or charismatic. But, generally speaking, we are not to go any farther. School thy feelings, says the hymn. Keep your heart pure. Whoever has trouble doing this---and it may be more difficult in this sexually permissive, oversexed, in-your-face world--- needs to repent continually. Some, at some times, are more prone to lust than others, but we all have our weaknesses. We are all in constant need of turning back to God and relying on Christ.

We mustn't buy into this oversexualization of everything, including each other. We are all children of God. We should be able to tell, or know, who is male and who is female, leave the sex distinction at that, and act accordingly when it comes to clothing, modesty, bathrooms, grouping, roles, and propriety. The only human relationship that should include sexuality in thought and deed is the one where marriage is concerned.

It's a little frustrating to write about these things because they shouldn't have to be taken apart like this. Time was when the birds and the bees, when right and wrong, when good and evil, when the difference between lust and love, were all taken for granted in a thousand spoken and unspoken ways. People need to read some good books and watch some good old movies. It's all there. But now the devil has had his way. He has so twisted and contorted male and female, sex and sexuality, child and adult, that people are talking nonsense and confusing everybody else. You can't help who you lust after? You can't help who you "love?" Oh yes you can. Everybody needs to stop with the sexualizing and homosexualizing of everything and replant their feet firmly on the good, honest earth.

Let's finish our conversation between A and B and give it a good ending.

A: When I said I find people attractive other than my spouse, I didn't mean sexually, or anything personal. Why did you assume I did? I don't think sexually about anyone other than my spouse. If I did I'd have to repent. I'm just noticing that there are handsome or beautiful people.

B: Oh, sorry. But it's still an attraction. I'm trying to show you how gays can't help how they feel and there's nothing wrong with it.

A: And yet you seemed to be convicting me of lust. Why?

B. I don't know. Everything gets sexualized these days. It seemed like a good argument to excuse homosexuality.

A: Oh, so if everybody sins, sin is okay?

B. Hmm. I guess that's not a good argument.

A. The thing that makes any physical attractedness inappropriate is the sexualizing of the person or people.And people aren't necessarily doing that; at least we can hope they aren't. There's a difference between people's attractiveness and turning that into sexual lust.

B: Oh, I see. So attractedness just is. But when people say they are same-sex attracted they are talking about same-sex sexual desires? When they say they can't help who they love, they really mean they don't want to restrain their lusts?

A: Right, that's how people are thinking nowadays and both lust and homosexuality are always wrong. People of the same sex can and do love each other, but they mustn't sexualize those feelings.

B: Wow, I never thought about it. Whatever else it may be, homosexuality has to be sexual. And I wasn't fair using general attractedness to excuse homosexual lust.

A: Yes. And like other sexual sins, homosexuality is out-of-bounds both in desire and deed. It is based on lust and lust is always wrong.