Friday, January 24, 2020

Announcing Our New Book: I Learned to Swim in the Ocean

Someone said: You will never have a better friend than a friend who points you to Christ. This is the goal of Tidal Wave Books' I Learned to Swim in the Ocean by Janice Graham, just off the presses January 2020.

The labor of love has been a long time coming; Janice started writing it in 2004. Set against the author's earliest Pacific island childhood, this book is a sink-or-swim adventure toward faith in Christ on a tidal wave of trial and truth. It could be called memoir, autobiographical, inspirational, literary, but above all, it's about conversion/coming to Christ. And who doesn't like to revisit childhood? C. S. Lewis said, "I never read an autobiography in which the parts devoted to the earlier years were not far the most interesting."

It's meant to be an easy, flowy read, but not a shallow one. Janice likes to say she has some big names backing her up on the deep ideas presented in her book, as in Plato, John Locke, Dostoevsky, William James, Flannery O'Connor, and C. S. Lewis, to name just a few. And she includes conversational end notes for those who wish for more information on the classic works she cites.

For SoL readers, there are several principles you will recognize, finally gathered together in one book.

Please be patient while the TWB website ( is being revamped; in the meantime you can order the book by sending an email to It's $19.95. Free audio book is also in the works.

Friday, August 30, 2019

The LGBTShow: Coming to your LDS Sacrament Meeting

There are now gay activists being invited to speak at LDS sacrament meetings for the sole purpose of normalizing and promoting homosexualism. The LGBT show with its Godless and anti-Christ worldview will inevitably come to your ward sooner or later. Yes, with children and youth of all ages present. Get ready for representatives of perverse sexuality speaking from the pulpit, from wards and stakes on up, and everybody slobbering all over them as if they are celebrities.

We don't know how anyone can argue that churches everywhere are flipping to embrace perverse sexuality in a big way. Incredibly, there is no concern for how LGBT people became so preoccupied with sex and sexuality that their sexual orientation is their primary public identity. Normal people don't do that. What do we care what people's sexual identities or fantasies are in church---unless we find some pleasure in it as the scripture says? The point of Christian church gatherings is supposed to be that we are all sinners, striving to get and stay in the light through the grace of Christ.

But the gay gloaters are not about that. They are just about themselves and their perverse sexual thoughts and behaviors which they portray as just a harmless, wholesome, normal identity, while disguising it in phony religious-sounding phraseology. And they're recruiting straights as a way of access. No matter what they actually say, there is more deception and lying and cunning and fawning and self-interest and politics going on than we can possibly discuss here.

Don't be fooled. The normal-ish way they present themselves and the religious-ish language they may use is all the more dangerous because it masks the very risky, sick, and harmful things they think, do, and promote. It is all a show. It used to be that gays stormed into churches interrupting meetings in protest. They've gotten a lot more crafty. Now they dress themselves up like everybody else and talk like everybody else and worm their way in as courageous speakers and leaders. Using church meetings is just another way to win people over, gain access to children and youth in order to create sexual confusion, and groom the congregation for acceptance/participation in sexual deviancy. For all intents and purposes it's the same thing as those horrendous drag queens telling sweet little perverse sex stories to little children in libraries, all supported by authority figures.

As in The Count of Monte Cristo by Alexander Dumas, when a wrong is committed, in order to find the perpetrator(s) the first thing to ask is: who stands to benefit from it? There is a lot of attention and praise and opportunity to speak out for proud gay people these days. Not to mention the exciting unlimited lusting, pornography use, and sexual encounters everybody ignores. Sin is pleasurable --- for a time. People don't get into perverse sexuality in a vacuum.

But those who benefit directly are not the only ones doing wrong. All those promoting or going along with this trend, that is, whitewashing, flattering, and bending over backwards to make themselves appear "Christ-like" and "inclusive" of what every decent person thought of as the most outrageous and heinous sexual sins of the heart and body five minutes ago should know that they are now a huge part of the problem, the biggest part. Two percent of the population cannot change public sentiment and values without recruiting an army of sympathizers/followers.

These LGBT sychophants need to know they are promoting sex addiction, family abandonment, pedophilia, incest, child abuse, rape, sex slavery including child sex slavery, and pornography of all of these types, you name it. Surely there is more to become acceptable, even laudable, that we haven't even imagined, and the LGBT juggernaut and its gullible and weak and pretend-religious followers have set the stage for absolutely anything. Without God, all things are permitted, said Dostoevsky.

Most everybody draws the line somewhere, but the line just got stretched out of all recognition. As D. French said, "Those who surrender on one issue tend to surrender on others as well." We've noticed that today's homosexualists never draw any clear lines or stand for any clear rules on sexuality, at least we haven't heard or seen it anywhere. Chastity is not on their radar. If they do draw any lines, where do their boundaries come from? Why are our boundaries from God suddenly null and void but they get to make new ones that we have to abide by or be called names, punished, and ostracized? It's C. S. Lewis's Abolition of Man come true.

Read the following and ask yourself, how is this for evil being called good? Read it and weep. Then watch it come to your ward, depending on your local leaders' current worldview.

On July 28 in an LDS ward in Salt Lake City (world headquarters of the church), a trio of sex activists, apparently proudly identifying themselves as a lesbian, a gay, and a transgender, spoke to the congregation in its main meeting. Apparently they do not belong to this ward but were invited to speak by the bishop, the official shepherd of the flock. This in itself is a travesty, but also highly unusual because only ward or stake members and leaders, maybe former ward members, or perhaps some other leader with jurisdiction over the ward, ever speak at ward sacrament meetings. Strangers are not asked to speak or do musical numbers or have any part in this particular meeting. There can be no doubt that the only reason, the outrageous reason, these three people, unknown to the ward members, were invited to speak is because of their perverse sexual tastes or preferences. The lesbian is about sex with other women, the male homosexual desires sex with other men, and the transgender is a man presenting himself in feminine ways whom we therefore assume prefers sex with other men, that is, another homosexual. (This is the only honest way to distinguish these people from everybody else. People who insist Mormon LGBTs are not interested in sex are being completely snowed or dishonest.) As you will see, they were there to speak "as an openly lesbian woman, gay man, and trans female."

 This is what Jena Peterson, one of the participants, wrote about it:  "Today was such a beautiful day for me at church and I wanted to share it with you. I was asked to speak in a ward in Salt Lake, along side my dear friends Ann Ryan Pack and Ben Schilaty. What a great experience for us to be able to speak as an openly lesbian woman, gay man, and trans female.

I wasn’t sure what to expect going into this ward, as it can be vulnerable to speak as an LGBT person, especially in an unfamiliar ward. The hope was that our message, along with the Spirit, would touch the hearts of those in the ward. From the feedback we received and from the gracious remarks of the Bishop, I think the meeting went well. But what I’d like to write about tonight is how this ward actually touched my heart, not how I touched theirs.

I walked into the ward a little bit late and sat on the back row. I was touched immediately by the love and spirit I felt there. I’m a pretty observant person and started scanning the congregation, trying to get a feel for how these people might respond to our message. I instantly had tears in my eyes as I noticed 5 people around me with visible tattoos, I could smell cigarette smoke on someone nearby, some people wore normal street clothes, there were many people of different races and color, there were people who seemed homeless and wore whatever they could find, there were missionaries, there were men with long hair, all different kinds of people. I especially loved the sister who wore dress pants and a Nike visor 😎.

I quickly realized I was in a room full of imperfect, beautiful souls, all doing their best to come and worship Jesus Christ. They were there as individuals, very different individuals, but full of love and acceptance for all who attended. Everyone belonged in the chapel this morning. It was the perfect meeting to prepare me and help me feel safe sharing my heart with them.

This was such a beautiful example of what the gospel of Jesus Christ is all about. There were no feelings of being different or marginalized. Truly a congregation built on the teaching of the Gospel of Jesus Christ. My hope is that my message today touched the hearts of this ward as much as they touched mine

Tonight I’m feeling gratitude for my life and the beautiful experiences that come my way. I’m thankful for a loving Savior who has helped me embrace my sexual orientation and the Gospel of Jesus Christ. It’s such an amazing feeling to be able to hold within my soul these two important truths in peace. I’m forever thankful for my painful, yet beautiful journey

The peace I feel today is worth every ounce of pain I’ve felt. Being able to embrace the truth of uncertainty, sitting in a paradox, and turning my faith to God and Jesus Christ, has given me more peace in my spiritual journey than I could ever imagine.

Thank you to the wonderful ward in Salt Lake City who touched my heart!"

Apparently these three are all set up to make the rounds. And there are others promoting all things LGBT in church which we have heard tell of throughout Utah Valley. Apparently it starts in the auxiliary meetings and then graduates to sacrament meetings. Listen and you will hear it in your ward somewhere. By the way, we asked our bishop years ago what he would do if homosexualism was being positively represented/preached from the pulpit. He said he wouldn't do anything, except maybe teach his own children at home that it was wrong. We said we couldn't attend if that sort of thing went on. Without hesitation he told us our eternal salvation would be at stake if we didn't attend. We said we could find another ward to go to where the bishop was not afraid to take the right  stand on this issue and he didn't have a response.

So traveling homosexual activists nobody knows from Adam can be allowed or invited to preach their perverse Godless ideologies disguised as love and religion to any Christian congregation, but we are going to hell if we don't attend/participate/add our amen to the blind sychophantic multitude? Do people not see the triumph of evil here?

We don't know how anyone can argue that many, many people have always thought there are tried-and-true rules for human sexuality that come from God that will never change. We don't know how anyone can argue who is getting hurt when churches flip their worldview to embrace unlimited sexual impurity. We don't know how we can get in trouble in our so-called church of Jesus Christ for holding to our deeply-held beliefs and yet we have gotten into trouble. In fact we have been told over our local pulpit that we better go along with all the changes happening in the church or we will be "wiped out." What? We could write a book about how we have been treated in our own church on all levels just because we haven't gone along with the current worldly trend of exploitation and politicization of perverse human sexuality. There is no wonder who is getting gain from this sort of thing.

Thursday, August 1, 2019

Drag Queen Men Insult Women and Injure Children

If you read anything behind these drag queen story hours being held at libraries all over the world, including 35 chapters in the U.S., for children age 3-8, at which they read LGBTQ-affirming picture books aloud, (with make-up classes for tweens and teens), your heart might explode. See if you can make it even halfway through this information provided by MassResistance. I couldn't.

As an actual woman, and as a mother and grandmother, I have something to say about this development and a perfect right to say it. Somebody has to.

First, as a woman, I am grossly insulted. I am insulted that grown men are making a mockery of my sex, which is being treated in all seriousness! No woman I have ever known makes such a spectacle of herself as these men do. No woman I know presents herself in any way like these men are doing. No woman I know does her makeup like that, or wears costumes like that. Ever. No woman I know would ever appear like that in front of children and read them perverse sexuality stories. This is a perversion of womanhood, a sick and frightening parody, exaggerated to the nth degree, all to initiate children into perverse sexuality.

Who does that? Well, sex-addicted men who are after the only sexual taboo remaining: children. The huge amount of trouble they go to is a clue to their outrageous preoccupation with sex and children.

I am insulted also because these drag queens are men. As such they have no right to pose as women, especially in polite society expecting to be taken seriously, treated as V.I.P.s, and celebrated. They do not have female anatomy. They never had a period or menstrual cramps. They never had PMS. They were never pregnant and never gave birth. They never had postpartum depression or nursed a baby. They have never suffered through menopause, having bouts of anxiety/hot flashes every 45 minutes for years. These womanly experiences are serious things for us women. I don't appreciate them being dismissed and belittled. These men will never suffer through any of these exclusively female pains and discomforts. What right have they to pretend they are female without having any body part, natural hormone, or true life experience that actually comes with being a female?

Second, as a mother and grandmother, I have my claws out to protect young ones. More and more of these drag queen men are being found to be involved in all things perversely sexual and pornographic and to admit they wish to groom and recruit children into all things perversely sexual. Apparently, the common predatory initiating of younger people is the most thrilling part of the whole LGBT lifestyle. The movement certainly puts a huge effort into recruiting children and youth, through the education system, through mainstream entertainment, through pornography, through printed materials, through sex ed classes, through foster programs, through libraries, through parades and festivals, through conferences and workshops, you name it.

You think drag queen story hour is not about perverse and promiscuous sex for kids and everything connected with it? these are some of the actual names they choose for themselves: Annie Christ. Molestia Child. Anna Bortion, Sharon Needles. Olive D. Cox. Avery Goodlay. Anna Fetamine. Can anyone doubt that these drag queen story hours are taxpayer funded child abuse that contribute to the delinquency of minors? Aggressive transvestites, who demand access to children, should be on the sexual offenders list, if they aren't already! They are dangerous. These outrageous cross-dressers' stated goal is to provide children with positive role models for sex and sexuality. Yes, they admit it's all about sex,and they call it positive! So why have libraries been known not to provide their real identities to the public? It's not just the LGBTs that are out to confuse and harm children; it's their supporters, too.

Think how you would have felt as a child if you were exposed to this sort of thing, especially under the auspices of authority entities and figures like government, libraries, adults, librarians, and parents.

Please see our books about teaching children correct attitudes and facts about male and female, sex and sexuality.  The gentle text of Me Tarzan, You Jane is free to read to your children and grandchildren. It's one thing you can do to contradict the harm and insanity.

Monday, April 29, 2019

Gay BYU Valedictorian Proudly Comes Out to Great Applause

When has a person's personal, private sexual attractions and desires, normal or perverse, ever been part of his or her college valedictorian speech at BYU? Never. Until now. On April 26, 2019, the valedictorian of the political science department/school of family, home, and social sciences ---the most liberal, leftist college in the university---was chosen to deliver the address in the Marriot Center, which address was reviewed and signed off in advance, and which included these remarks:

"I stand before my family, friends, and graduating class today to say that I am proud to be a gay son of God. I am not broken. I am loved and important to the plan of our great creator.  Each of us are." [Smiled and paused waiting for applause and cheering and whistling to die down.] "Four years ago it would have been impossible for me to imagine that I would come out to my entire college. It is a phenomenal feeling. And it is a victory in and of itself."  In an interview with the Washington Post he expresses the hope that "my country, my faith, and my community will follow in a similar fashion," which is to "be different or not fit the norm." 

A victory? Over what or whom? All we can think of is God. He is declaring a victory over God.  Which includes victory over decency, health, truth, wholesomeness, righteousness, biology, law, goodness, justice, reality, and Christ. There is nothing pure here. Congratulations.

The norm? Does he mean the norm as in the birds and the bees? Because if his country, faith, and community decides to reject normal human sexuality, we won't have any more country, faith, or community. There is nothing even human here. Again, congratulations.

Why would anybody in their right mind want to applaud for such a victory, or such a thumbing one's nose at normalcy, as in reality and emotional and mental health? Why does such a person deserve any credit for simply going along with the popular trends of the wicked times we're living in, which trends are actually as old as mankind? Why does he deserve praise and applause for identifying himself with his current lusts? These lusts have no doubt been suggested by oversexed environmental influences, fueled by same sex internet pornography, encouraged by gay chat rooms, inflamed by masturbation, exacerbated by self-absorption and entitlement, cemented by secret sexual communications and meetings with older men, emboldened and informed by homosex activists and recruiters, and supported by family, friends, teachers, school, and now church.

This narcissism, ignorance, and reckless youthful presumption is the result of higher education? Was he even introduced to any timeless wisdom and knowledge with that university 4.0? Sounds like he just got indoctrinated and emboldened and became a sex activist, which is happening at almost every college and university in America today. Many kids are entering college straight and coming home gay and/or homosexualist. Is anybody making the connection? Of course this indoctrinated young man will enter the field of public discourse with his political science/writing degree. This is the type of occupation they tend to end up doing. As he said, he gained confidence to open up to his parents, as well as friends, by counseling with faculty advisors who supported him emotionally as well as academically. What does a person's sexuality have to do with a college education? Did some of those faculty advisors also initiate him into homosex? That's how it happens. Older men initiate younger men in secret.

Why should we applaud homsexualism when, relatively speaking, just five seconds ago it was universally abhorred? Why should we applaud homosexualism when it has proved to be inordinately and outrageously promiscuous, risky, even deadly? Why should we applaud homosexualism when the scriptures plainly condemn it? Why are we suddenly supposed to love, encourage, and celebrate this formerly unspeakable identity and lifestyle? We know why. It's because these "progressives" love the world more than God. They love themselves/human beings (code word: authenticity, or the natural man) more than God. They love their own or others' lusts more than God. They think they are smarter than God. They have made a false god over in their own image that fits their worldview and their current passions. 

There is nothing new or mysterious or enlightened about how these increasingly worldly Mormon people have jumped on the sexual liberation band wagon. They are just following along with the very wicked old world, and fooling themselves into thinking they are more righteous than anybody who ever lived, including God. Please note that there is no sin, no law, no punishment, no repentance, and no Christ in this gay-is-great worldview. And when we get hate mail about this post, none of these haters will deny any of our points. They will only attack us personally.

Interesting that this momentous event was not reported in the Church-owned Deseret News or KSL-TV and radio.  There will only be more and more of these glorified comings-out in church venues of all descriptions, which will apparently be pretty much winked at/ignored by the administration.

When did anybody ever whistle and cheer and applaud for a young man who inappropriately and proudly announces to a captive audience of 10,000 people that he is a heterosexual, God's straight son? Maybe, science fiction-like, that will happen at some future time when all of this nonsense has played out, humankind is dying out for this and other reasons, and such courageous young men are its only hope.

Many are hoping the Lord will come sooner than later.

Note 5/5/2019: We have since heard that this individual has been "out" for some time, in case you had the idea this was news, and has a same-sex partner or two. In other words, he is an experienced homosexual. Correct us if we heard wrong.

Sunday, April 14, 2019

Straight and Gay Equality in the Mormon Church: What This Looks Like

Lots of developments have taken place lately among the LDS flock. Shepherds have reversed their roles. Wolves have entered in. The unrepentant are numbered among the repentant; their names are no longer to be blotted out. Evil is being called good. Good is being called evil. (Apparently the worst thing anyone can do these days is call out the worst things people are doing.) The hideous abortion culture and all the LGBTQ social travesties are left unaddressed. All that matters is being nice and loving everybody. (And when did we not be nice and love everybody?) Most people are acting like the three silly monkeys with their eyes, ears, and mouths covered. The worst and most absurd and lustful imaginings of men are being ignored, indulged, encouraged, celebrated. Humble people and troubled families are being left on their own to try to make sense of these crazy things. God's eternal truths are being treated as changeable, transient, dependent upon the fashionable, noisy wickedness of the times. Our people are committing atrocities.

Yes, atrocities. Men are abandoning their holy promises, their faith,
their wives and children, for hedonistic same-sex sex. (Note 8/23/19 Ed Smart for instance.We were waiting for that shoe to drop!) Family members are being forced to join in celebrating same-sex weddings or be ostracized by their loved ones. A returned missionary turns to male gay prostitution and contracts AIDS. Wouldn't you call a young woman voluntarily having healthy parts of her body cut off so she can more easily pretend to be a male an atrocity? Her grieving Mormon mother sure does. It sounds positively medieval.

Voltaire said, "Those who can make you believe absurdities can make you commit atrocities."

Here's a little atrocity we experienced ourselves the other day. We were innocently driving down a local street when suddenly a vehicle pulled up alongside us out of nowhere, the driver seeming to shout angrily at us. He pointed and waved a large middle finger at us violently. At the same time his car swerved threateningly into our lane toward ours. What was this road rage about? Fearing for our safety we quickly turned onto the first available side road and lost him. All we can figure out is that this bearded thirty-something man in a van was angry at our conservative bumper stickers, most probably the little 2-inch rainbow circle with a line through it. We reported this incident to the police. Bumper stickers are legal, whereas using one's car to threaten people is against the law. And you know, we've seen plenty of bumper stickers we don't like or agree with, but it has never occurred to us to treat any such car or driver in any inconsiderate, much less vulgar, dangerous, or violent manner. So where is the hate really coming from? And where is the kindness?

One result of these above recent developments is that lately we have seen many confused, frustrated, and sad faces, full of pain and suffering. And we have seen some of these same people starting to wake up, starting to think for themselves, starting to let go of their trust in human beings, and turn to God. After all, the scriptures say we are cursed if we put our trust in men, cursed as in stagnated,  deceived, harmed, even led to hell, perhaps. Therefore, shifting our religious responsibilities to ourselves and the Lord is one very good thing that is happening. We in the trenches must engage our God-given intellects, seeking the Spirit to discern truth and error, and guide our families. 

One troubling development that has occurred in our church is that homosexual and heterosexual immoral acts will now be treated exactly the same. Sure, we get it. Gays are all about equality, as per their bumper stickers, shown here. If equality is the primary principle, how can we not see that many homosexual behaviors in same-sex dating and gay marriage will now be acceptable? The problem is that homosexuality is always bad and wrong and unhealthy and unnatural, and heterosexuality is very good and right and healthy and natural in one particular setting---proper relations between faithful man and woman in marriage. So we must point out that in treating homo and hetero immorality exactly the same (such as punishing child abuse, rape, premarital sex, and adultery), homosexual acts other than those, such as sodomy in gay marriage---the only way two men can imitate sexual intercourse---will now be allowed unquestioned.

Even though officially the church is still against gay marriage, top leaders have stated they are leaving dealing with this issue up to local leaders. Therefore, we are quite sure most local church leaders will not question gay marriage among members as it is now legal, pressure to accept it is so great, the public has been completely indoctrinated, and they are not being given specific instructions from the top.

Yes, while equal treatment may forbid some behaviors for both straights and gays, it also allows every gay behavior except those sinful for straights. In other words, equality demands that things that are not sinful among straights can no longer be treated as sinful among gays. Think about it. In this supposed Christ-centered, morality-based church, gay members can, with impunity, indulge and practice same-sex romantic fantasies. (Apparently nobody cares much these days about sexual purity in the heart, mind, or soul, even though the scriptures say that no unclean thing can dwell in God's presence.) In addition, gays can now flirt, dance, hold hands, hug, date, go steady, court, show affection publicly, get engaged, and yes, get married and have a family (in their case only through artificial means). None of these acts are immoral for heterosexuals, so evidently they won't be treated as immoral for homosexuals. In one blink, gay coupling just became allowed in the Mormon church.

Yes, the official pronouncements are very difficult to decipher, but if you can, they indeed appear to compromise the 1995 Family Proclamation and reverse a certain "revelation" that was given just a few years ago about not allowing children of gay parents to get baptized. (Isn't it line upon line, not line upon redacted line?) Gay coupling, including gay marriage, is now acceptable in a church that only 11 years ago headed a huge campaign for California's prop 8, which was against legalizing gay marriage. Many people have not left their church, but quite suddenly their church has certainly left them.

How is this possible, you ask? As far as we can make out, from what we have heard here and there, Mormons use the following line of reasoning in order to justify these rapid changes and developments. Get ready. We are not making this up.The thing that is still what they call "a serious transgression" (not necessarily requiring any church discipline, left to local authorities) is just the actual ceremony of same-sex marriage. Not sex acts like sodomy, etc. Now this is the reason why and it might stun you. Powers that be and many members actually believe, or reason, or pretend, or wish, or are convinced that Mormon gays do not act out. We have actually heard this perception expressed verbally by specific individuals in positions of authority. Let that sink in.

Of course "acting out" is not defined. Aren't all of the behaviors listed above homosexual acts? Oh well, let's say what they mean is that they are confident that their very special and precious same-sex attracted church members, family members, and friends are and will forever remain celibate, which means they have not, do not, and will not have full-on same-sex sexual relations, but instead act like, well, close friends. Apparently even when they are married!

News flash. Married people sleep together. They have sexual relations. Marriage is actually the only relationship that is supposed to be sexualized. Of course the institution of marriage has been hijacked and held hostage by the LGBT juggernaut. Activists don't really care at all about gays being "married;" they just hate God and want sex to be for any and everyone, which negates the whole idea of marriage as the only place where sex is supposed to happen. They want to bring the whole house down, as Midge Decter put it. And now same-sex people can get married, and recognized as such, in the Mormon church no less. So there you go. Do people really think that open homosexuals, who insist this is how God made them, who are all about complete equality with heterosexuals, or actually better than, are going to refrain from sex, at least in the only way they can ever, sort of, kind of, do it?

Come now. Is there any reason to assume that unrepentant, same-sex attracted couples, now accepted, are not going to play out their romantic and sexual feelings? With their public sexualized "identity" and in this hedonistic, pornogrified, eroticized environment that tells them with the touch a fingertip that whatever feels good is right and supplies unlimited immediate partners? Is there any evidence? Do we know if any such couples exist? If so, might they be the exception? And another thing: Is there anything wise or realistic or even honest or kind about this fantastic celibacy idea? Can we seriously accept people for "who they are" and then not allow them to live that way? No, and so now we are allowing them to live that way, aren't we?---just by pretending that they aren't living that way.

About this conundrum one octogenarian said, "Well, their leaders will just ask them if they are doing it, like they ask everybody else about sexual immorality." Really? Ask married people if they are having sex? I'ts not immoral! Who does that to heterosexuals? Nobody, so they can't ask homosexuals. Equality, remember? And even if they were asked, the gay narrative is that lying about it is perfectly fine, if it furthers the cause.

A middle-aged man approached us at a conference this past week. He seemed stunned, in a sort of daze as if faced with something absolutely unbelievable. He said he knew a wonderful young man with so much promise, a young gay Mormon, a favorite, whom everybody trusted could and would live a celibate life. The man looked off in the distance and said, "I just can't believe it. He is living that terrible lifestyle now. And he was such a good boy . . ."

Do people really think we don't reap what we sow?

Do people really think that those emboldened enough and experienced enough and rebellious enough to publicly come out as gay are not involved in pornography and have not experimented and are not acting on it and never will? When such shenanigans are approved of by society and government? Are people really this naive? Or is this gullibility a put-on for convenience-sake, a loophole so as not to have to single out for anything negative the highly protected LGBTQ crowd? And let's not forget that many Mormons today---yes, maybe the ones sitting next to you in church---are perfectly fine with people having gay sex. They can't for the life of them figure out why our leaders don't just let people "love"---read: sex around with---whomever they want! Hello? Nobody is stopping anybody from purely and truly loving anybody sans sex.

Make of that presumption---that Mormon gays are purity itself---what you will. With no satisfactory explanations, everyone is doing just that, making of all of this what they will. As for us at SoL, we repeat. Homosexuality is being portrayed in both mainstream and now in most all churches as normal and wholesome, modeled and taught to children. It is in the air young people breathe today. It is pornographic in nature. It is highly alluring, highly sexual, highly addictive, and highly promiscuous. It is gravely risky and harmful. It is rebellious against nature and God. The acceptance of it as an identity is anti-Christ. It is anti-posterity. It is a miserable dead end, physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually.

Sexual licentiousness knows no bounds and no end. Whatever vile things mankind can imagine, it will do. Still, mere sins of the flesh are not the worst sins. For instance, willfully denying and rebelling against God, against goodness and truth, is far worse. But there is hope for all types of sinners. Through Jesus Christ individuals can humble down and admit their sins, turn away from them, repent, and become new beings with changed desires, washed clean and free, loving God first. Strange, within the last decade or so this merciful and glorious gospel solution has no longer been emphasized or even offered in any way regarding same-sex attraction in any official church capacity, not in our church, just like many others. Sin and repentance and redemption are not included in the gay Mormon narrative at all. How convenient.

Perhaps the last step (we say last step advisedly) in this long tale of woe is people of the same sex getting married in the Mormon temples. You think not?  What about equality? They have been after this very thing for decades. We remember full-page gay-affirming ads in the papers something like 15 years ago showing two men posing in front of the Salt Lake Temple. They will not stop pressuring the church until this is accomplished. And isn't the groundwork laid? If the required line is that Mormon same-sex couples don't actually do the unspeakable, why can't they be officially joined together now and forever? What about gay-parented families? Why can't the children a same-sex couple procures be sealed to them? The gay family group sheets are already prepared.

Say what leaders will, it is our understanding that just this past week the road was cleared of any obstacles for open gay coupling in the Mormon church and gay temple ceremonies. Not to mention gay teachers and leaders on every level. All celibate of course! This kind of thing is done in private after all, any ultimately fatal or chronic health problems and illnesses are pretty private, too, and no babies ever come of it, so who would know? And if and when they sexually contract deadly disease and chronic debilitating health problems, we're pretty sure nobody would dare to connect the obvious dots. Wouldn't want to judge. They'd probably be even more popular! (Ever heard of bug chasers? These are gays who deliberately have relations with HIV-positive individuals hoping to contract the disease. Apparently in the gay world there is some sort of perverse prestige attached to it.)

As always, we would love to be corrected if we're wrong.

After that, there will be more atrocities to come, yet unimagined by decent people. We haven't even scratched the surface of the transgender insanity being force-fed to us and all that will mean.

So here we are living in a facsimile of Sodom and Gomorrah on steroids, all glossed over with phony righteousness and  diversity and compassion and good works, even falsely sanctioned by God Himself. We imagine Lot's wife just had too many friends and activities she didn't want to leave behind. Do you? What would you sell your soul for?

People ask us if we are keeping the faith. We say, faith in what? Because our faith in God, in Jesus Christ, and in the Spirit teaching us the truth of all things grows stronger every day.

Note: Many Mormons we hear from on these topics have shared that they are greatly comforted and strengthened by the timeless truths referred to on our website and in our books Captain of My Soul, Chased by an Elephant, and Me Tarzan, You Jane. Access the text of Me Tarzan, You Jane for free here. There appear to be very few resources of this kind for Mormons available. Homosexuality, what causes it, the harm and heartbreak it results in, and the possibility of repentance and healing specific to this particular sin are no longer addressed in mainstream Mormonism. Make of that what you will.

Monday, February 25, 2019


Let's think through this ban on gay conversion therapy for anyone under 18 that is now the law in 14 states, soon to be 15 or 16, as in Utah and Colorado. Yes, Utah. A formerly highly conservative state that has now almost completely recharacterized itself to all-out liberal. Even far left.

If things go as planned, it will soon be against the law for, say, parents to get their teenager professional help in overcoming unwanted homosexuality. In Utah. This is the place, folks. It's the place where we found brilliant help for our son all those years ago, our son, who voluntarily rooted out and conquered his unwanted problem and later got married to a lovely woman, our son who is now the father of three lovely children. This is the place that is now about to outlaw that sort of help, with the whole-hearted imprimatur of the dominant church. Yes, The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints has denounced reparative therapy, at the same time refusing to accept gay marriage. Try figuring that one out.

The church did not technically support the bill, but rather announced publicly it would not oppose it, which is tantamount to supporting it. In reading the bill it appears that the church is satisfied with protecting itself legally because of a clause in the bill that gives exemption to ecclesiastical members or counselors in a religious capacity saying anything that might be construed as converting someone from gay to straight.(In our church these are most likely to be lay people who have no training in giving any such help anyway. And apparently, according to material the church has produced welcoming gayness, gospel principles such as sin and repentance through Christ are not to be considered. All the counseling anyone will get on this topic is maybe abstinence and warning of the gay lifestyle, the likes of which we don't hear over the pulpit.) Any additional concrete reason the church has refused to support professional sexual orientation change therapy are not common knowledge. The best members can do is make unfounded second-guesses and conjectures to try to excuse this travesty. The position the church has taken concerning this type of therapy is certainly politically correct.

Granted, in the 1960s and early 70s, Mormons with homosexual tendencies were convinced to submit themselves to shock treatments and other crazy procedures in the hope of ridding themselves of the lust for homosexual sex, that is, lust for sodomy. That was stupid. Look, sodomy and all that goes with it is an age-old sin. Key word: sin. It doesn't seem right or effective to try to use electricity to shock somebody out of sinfulness.That is not how Christianity is supposed to be conducted.

After all, the scriptures say that it's the gospel that works better than anything else in overcoming sin. Indeed, the gospel of Jesus Christ was the foundation of our son's therapy, as in we are human beings who go astray, and because of Jesus Christ we can retrace our steps, get on the right path through truth, and repentance and faith in Him, and become humble new creatures with new hearts and new desires fit for the presence of God. (Correct us if that is not the pure gospel of Jesus Christ in a nutshell. You either believe in it or you don't.)

In this oversexed world that celebrates homosexuality like the newest fad, supposed followers of Christ, as in leaders of The Church of Jesus Christ, are against counseling to help young people figure out and overcome and repent of this lawless trendy lust? Really? People, that's just anti-Christ. A heads up for you Mormons: all the anti-Christs in the Book of Mormon were intent on abolishing the whole idea of repentance.

Besides being anti-Christ, another frightening thing about this development is its assault on liberty (which is related to Christianity because we have to be free to live it). Who do these gay activists think they are, going around conniving to make it illegal to act according to the dictates of one's own conscience in their personal life by seeking out counseling that supports their worldview? And why would any church go along with such a thing? A church supporting a bill that outlaws people living their lives according their religious beliefs? Like one of our kids said, it's like outlawing religion. Why would a church want to do that?

This bill is nothing short of tyranny. As per Thomas Jefferson, "I have sworn on the altar of God eternal hostility against any form of tyranny over the mind of man." We're talking about tyranny over children, young people, families, people's private lives and consciences.

We must also bear firmly in mind where all this is coming from, ergo, the spirit of the times. Traditional moral values are being flushed down the toilet. We are living in enemy territory, in an excessively sexual environment where porn (including same-sex porn) is ubiquitous and where normal sexual development and proper sexual feelings are commonly interfered with, inflamed, and distorted. We're seeing the emasculization of manhood and the masculization of womanhood. Perverse and unnatural sexuality in any form people can imagine is paraded in the streets and touted as heroic. People can even decide which sex they really want to be despite their obvious anatomy, or even make up some new sex that can change with the wind. Oh, except from gay to straight. That's the only change increasingly not allowed societally, and now even legally.

The truth is, the Godless gay juggernaut doesn't want anybody to find out how they got into homosexuality or how they can get out. They don't want anybody to question homosexualism (as in both homosexual tendencies and homosexual acts), even if it is unwanted, even if it does violence to the person's conscience, even if they change their minds and want out, even though it is very hazardous, even though it is abominable to God, even though it is a mockery of the procreative act and an abuse of humanity. No, apparently these activists are so miserable themselves that they don't want anybody else getting help out of their dead-end misery either.

Gay activists and their supporters, their sympathizers, and those who for their own reasons are suddenly fine with this "identity," (read: homosexual lust and behavior), have acted so as to show that they don't want anybody to be able to understand these dangerous and perverse feelings, or root them out, or live a normal fulfilling life. This isn't love, it isn't compassion. It's ignorant, self-serving, cunning, deceptive, fawning, cruel, tyrannical, or all of those and more.

As Euripides wrote, "What brashness has the human heart! How far will it push?"

Note 2/26/19 We will let you know here if this Utah bill passes. It is in the rules committee now. We bet it will, simply because the dominant church is not opposing it.

Note 3/9/19  Surprise! The bill failed in committee because a new version was introduced (by our friends and our son's counselor all those years ago) and the sponsor of the bill did not like it and did not appear, which automatically tables the bill. The new version banned physical therapies such as shock and aversion (which haven't been done for decades anyway), but allowed talk therapy, and the bill's author wouldn't go for even that! Anyway, parents and young people with unwanted homosexual tendencies can still get the kind of counseling they desire in Utah for another year.  

Sunday, February 3, 2019

A Person's a Person No Matter How Small

--Janice Graham

We've been listening  some reactions to New York's evil abortion law and Virginia's attempt to pass the same sort of thing. It appears that even those who are generally pro-abortion are cringing at it. After all, they say, it's obviously a baby at the time of birth. So, yes full term abortion would be murder. But not say, during the first trimester. Let's take this supposed logic apart.

First, we never hear anybody talk about how the woman chose to have sexual intercourse in the first place. This is the case in the great majority of abortions. (Pregnancies aborted because of the health of the mother, rape, and incest are very rare indeed. More on that later.) Yes, sexual intercourse is most often a choice for both men and women. Sexual intercourse is the one choice that makes babies. Making a baby can be a result of sexual intercourse. Both the male and the female old enough to have sex know this fact from the start, and yes, it's the female, not the man, who is physically affected by pregnancy, which is just the way life is. If she, or they, makes the choice to stop the baby's life, that is her or their second choice. Yes, the pro-choice movement should more accurately be called pro-second-choice. And people assume it's the woman's choice alone to abort. But if the father is involved in the decision to abort, he knows, too, that this is a second choice he is making. The first was to engage in sexual relations, you know, that thing that makes babies.

Notice how no one talks about that first choice. They just fly off the handle saying how unfair it is that a woman should have to carry and give birth to a baby if or when she doesn't want to. We have even heard pregnancy/motherhood called a form of slavery. Really? The pregnancy? News flash. In the great majority of cases, the baby grows automatically in the protected safety of the mother's womb. She  really doesn't have to do anything extra or different to make the baby grow. There is the possibility of morning sickness, which can be all sorts of bad, and it might get uncomfortable toward the end, but that doesn't sound like slavery. After all, the woman chose to do the thing that made the baby. We are not talking about rape-induced pregnancy (very rare), so nobody forced her. So no, that is not even anything like slavery. It's just a fact of life that she knew from the start. Are they talking about motherhood? Is motherhood slavery? Again, no, because the woman chose to do the thing that made her a mother. And if she doesn't want to be a mother, there are countless infertile couples dying to have a family. She can give the baby away to some extremely grateful couple of her choice and walk away free as a bird. That doesn't sound like slavery either.

Granted, pregnancy and birth may be inconvenient, scary, even painful. I carried and gave birth to seven children, including a pair of 7 pound twins, some quite easily, some with difficulty. But this is what life is.  On the one side it can be inconvenient, scary, even painful. There is no way around that in some form or other. All of us came to be on this earth under those very same conditions. Hopefully the woman who finds herself inconveniently, scarily, even painfully pregnant learns a lesson or two, one of which is that sex is serious. If you choose to participate in it, there are all sorts of consequences. One of them is that you might get pregnant and have a baby, whether you want to or planned to at the time or not.This is a biological fact about the physically matured human female.

Second, people talk about some "gray area" in the course of human life between when a human has no value and when that human suddenly has great value The fact that people cannot pinpoint this moment in time, and admit that they cannot, is highly problematic. That judgment becomes an arbitrary one, subject to all sorts of whims and conditions, including the state or country you live in. Thus, the whole human race is tossed to and fro. That's because that supposed gray area between non-human and human is not only arbitrarily decided by anyone who happens to be in charge, but imaginary.Yes, a human being begins at conception, or as Dr. Seuss put it, "a person's a person no matter how small."

Now, as to the very rare cases of pregnancies that come about by rape or incest, at first glance in
these days when abortion is commonplace, this may appear the thing to do. We might especially worry about the pregnant female being a minor. After all, rape victimizes an innocent female. It's a horrible crime that greatly affects her life and it's not her fault she got pregnant. But it's not the new human's fault either. Perhaps it is best to let nature take its course, seeing as how abortion is yet another violent act against humanity. Pregnancy and birth are natural, whereas abortion is not. Such a  female, pregnant by an act of rape, who has an abortion may someday regret it because abortion is also an act of violence---to the death---against an innocent being, while the one who gives the child a life has just let nature take its course and need never regret it. As for incest the same logic applies. Any human life that results from these situations is not at fault and is valuable nonetheless.Same with a baby with defects. Human life is human life, and valuable in all its conditions. If we stray from this ideal, anything can take its place. Anyone can be deemed unnecessary or burdensome.

Life is complex. Life can get messy. But whether people like it or not, life is irrefutably life, amazing, inexplicable, and of immeasurable value. Abortion is the most blatant example of what happens when the current human powers that be decide to mock and defy the gift of procreation, step by step, until we cannot deny that at any stage needless abortion is an egregious self-loathing act of man's inhumanity to man and rebellion against God and Creation.