Monday, January 24, 2011

Why Gay Couples Can Never Be Good, Better, or Best Parents

(Note: In this post we are referring only to open, proud gays, not those who are resisting and privately working to overcome homosexuality.)

We've heard it from the media. We've heard it from our kids' friends. Now we've heard it from members of our church. "I know some lesbians who are such good parents." "At least it's better than abusive heterosexual parents or no parents at all." "Some of the best parents I know are gay."

First of all, how do they know? Are they the child of gay parents? Are they being raised by them? Do they live with them? Are they an innocent captive child audience to homosexual behaviors? Sure, the child may be fed, dressed, and housed, taught to wash hands and brush teeth and say the alphabet, get plenty of hugs and kisses and toys. But what else are they getting? They are getting a firsthand education in selfishness and delusion, not to mention a perverse sex education.

Here is a reality check:

1. Children do best in every way when raised by both a mother and a father because male and female complement each other, that is, they each add something uniquely essential. Gay couples are the same sex and therefore do not complement each other in important ways. Their union does not contribute anything of lasting value to a child.

2. Gay couples cannot mate. They do not do and never can do the thing that can make babies, although they do their best to contrive the heterosexual act. That's why they shouldn't be portrayed as if they are married. Societies sanction marriage (that is, two people of opposite sex forming a union with the understanding that they will do the thing that can make babies, whether they get babies or not) with the best interests and security of children in mind. Since homosexuals and lesbians can never make offspring together, their relationships do not deserve to be legitimized as marriage or anything like it. Same-sex sexual relationships are totally disconnected from human reproduction. As such, in every aspect, this fact must consciously or unconsciously define and influence their so-called union, including the lesser degree overall that children are important to them.

3. The "I deserve to be a parent no matter what" thing was cemented with Murphy Brown, the TV show that in a 1992 episode should have shocked America when the main character, a single working woman got pregnant and decided to celebrate being a single mother. Once we accepted elective single unwed parenting, elective gay parenting was next; if kids could do just as well without a dad or a mom, wouldn't two dads or two moms be even better? No. See #1.

4. Gay couples who finagle a way to procure a child are thinking primarily of themselves, as if a human infant is a pet, a trophy, or a sign of personal fulfillment. The fact that they must contrive an unnatural way--no exceptions--to obtain children portrays homosexuality's maladaptiveness. They do not care that they, personally, are purposefully and willfully depriving a child of normalcy and security in order to satisfy their own desires or whims. It's a case of wanting to have their cake and eat it.
5. Gay couples are 2-6X more likely to include instability, drug abuse, domestic violence, promiscuity, and the like, than heterosexual married parents.

6. The scope of legal ramifications of gay parenthood are a nightmare. As always, it is the children who suffer most when parents go wrong, and gay relationships open up a whole new set of unimaginable problems when children are involved.

7. Gay parents are modeling and teaching in unspoken and probably spoken ways a perverted and often extreme and promiscuous view of human sexuality. Before accepting the idea that gays make good parents, everyone should read Out From Under, by Dawn Stefanowicz, a heart-wrenching personal narrative on being raised by a gay father. Dawn is active in helping many others who have had similar experiences work through the damage done.In many ways, the social experiment called gay parenting, which is centered on the whims of sexually radical adults rather than the best interests of children, should be considered child sexual abuse. Common sense indicates that in such situations children are being exposed to a model of maladaptive and risky gender role play, sexuality, and behavior as if all is normal and safe. *As if we need more than common sense, scientific evidence is emerging indicating all sorts of negative outcomes including sexual. According to a pioneering new study by researcher Mark Regnerus, children of gay parents experience dramatically higher rates of depression, unemployment, drug use, arrests, marital problems, and, not surprisingly, sexual abuse, confusion,and promiscuity. One example of the dangers to children caught in this lifestyle is the finding that "children of lesbian mothers are an astonishing 11 times more likely to have been 'touched sexually by a parent or other adult caregiver' in childhood (but not necessarily by the homosexual parent; IBF 2%; LM 23%), and are nearly 4 times as likely to have been 'physically forced' to have sex against their will (at some time in their life, not necessarily in childhood; IBF 8%; LM 31%)."

We suggest people think about the best and long-term interests of innocent children and review what it is gay people actually model to their children and do with each other before sympathizing with,defending, and praising the modern travesty now called gay parenting.

*Added 10/14


melody said...

So true. My heart goes out to those babies brought into such skewed home environments.

Truther said...

Good points. Sadly, we live in an Orwellian society where the masses have forsaken common sense in favour of illogical rhetoric, cleverly disguised under the banner of love, tolerance etc.

It is important to remember people with same-sex attractions don't choose their feelings & simply don't know the truth; they've been used & abused by all sides of society, including religious people. Gay activists have convinced these people that everyone hates them & only they can show them love.

It's crucial to let these people know the truth & that informing them of such isn't bigotry, merely concern. Gay activists are anything but concerned, since they hide the risky consequences of indulging in same-sex relationships, & advocate banning treatment for those with unwanted SSA, which certainly NOT tolerance.

Tolerance fot them is a one-way street.

Many self-identified gays don't support these activists.

Please check out this video: -Notes on homosexuality.

The issue of gay parenting must be approached with caution, since people will assume one is questioning teh ability of the parents to love & take care of the kids. I'm sure children in such an arrangement are well taken care of & loved, but the nature of the relationship between the 2 parents will cause the kids much confusion & anguish, plus deliberately deprives them of the natural parenting they deserve.

There are already kids whose parents were former heterosexuals but now embrace homosexuality, & must live with this situation.

I'm sure many of these gay parents reject the rhetoric of gay activism & I don't wish to violate their civil rights. It is legislating gay parenting that is the problem.

Adding to this by attempting to equate gay parenting with heterosexual parenting will open a Pandora's box of possibilities that gay activists will exploit, to further enforce unnatural practises on other people's children.