Open Letter to Pro-Gay Friends

Dear Friends,

I enjoyed our visit yesterday. But perhaps I need to remind you that we have a son who got caught up in same-sex porn and homosexuality and chose to get some help and repent, who has been living a normal life for 20 years now.  As such, we have a different view, one that is not popular, in or out of the church. I am sorry I didn’t mention this during our talk. We have so few opportunities to share our view.

You talked about unconditional love. We always loved our son–enough to support him in the help he eventually desired, which help is now legally banned for minors in our state and others, which ban was supported by the LDS church. So while one of the main reasons you have left the church is because you perceive it as being anti-gay, one of our big troubles with the church is its continual softening toward homosexualism, a thing which we know to be harmful in many ways, which hurt our teenage son (he was initiated by porn, chat rooms, and older men) and our family. We have experienced none of the unconditional love you talked about, either from the world or the church when it comes to our unpopular world view and real life experience. We have been met only with censorship, shunning, and hatred, even death threats.

We currently have family members, 2 nephews and a niece, who are involved or have experimented with same-sex sexual ideas, feelings, and behaviors. This doesn’t mean we don’t love them, neither does it mean we give up our deeply-held values and our very real knowledge of what this dangerous lifestyle really is. We don’t preach at them, but they most certainly know where we stand.

If you are interested, we have a web site, blog, and have produced books for all ages showing a side of this issue that until relatively recently was generally shared worldwide, most probably even by you. Now, because of the very successful and systematic sexual revolution that began in the 1960s, time-honored, healthy family values are now vilified by the world and not even allowed in churches, including the LDS church. Surely you’ve seen the church soften over the last 10 years, even with its incomprehensible flip-flops. The church is leaving this issue up to local leaders and all forms of homosexualism are being preached from local pulpits and modeled in wards and stakes. We have heard there is soon to be an openly lesbian general authority. The narrative is that Mormon gays are not sexual, which is nonsense. 

Just letting you know that not all people who become disillusioned with the church believe in the embrace of homosexualism. It does seem to happen often, though, which is troubling. It would seem that people who have come to realize how horrible polygamy was and is would see that homosex is also a form of out-of-bounds sexual ideology and behavior.

Just because you find out the church is bad in many awful ways doesn’t mean God’s order, goodness, truth, and beauty are not timeless. Jesus died for us because we are all sinners. Homosexuality, like all the sexual sins, is an ancient sin, and especially in youth is often  a symptom or result of worse problems or abuses or sins. It is strange how people who claim they are so loving do not bother to find out what underlying horrors may well have caused such an unusual preoccupation with sex and sexuality in their loved one. Homosexuality in all its forms is inordinately harmful and sterile and risky and predatory, and shortens lives.

There is no end of human sin and excuses for sin. The embrace of homosexuality has opened the door wide to every other sexual evil. Promiscuity is everywhere. Abortion is a way to escape the consequences for the pleasure of sex. The farce that is polygamy is coming back and with it inevitably comes the societal acceptance of and encouragement of child-adult sex. Why not if it’s all about people being free to feel sexually toward whomever they choose? If we base our reactions to these issues on sentiment and human relations alone we miss out on God’s truths, we deny Christ, and we even abandon plain decency and responsibility.

I could go on and on. But I do want you to know there is lot of gay propaganda out there encouraging youth toward these behaviors. There is also some good information that could really help people who decide they want help, although it may be hard to find because it is now censored and vilified.

Lord bless,

Steve (and Janice)